will i get a bid with my twin
by: TwinsSo my twin and I are inseparable, and we do nearly everything together. We're pretty and fun. The only thing is I got better grades in high school, and was involved more than her. I just have a gut feeling I'll end up in a sorority that values grades and involvement a lot, it's just that I'd want my sister to be in it with me. Do sororities with these values ever take new members who aren't quite the stereotype of their house??
#1 by: Active
Often in situations like this, if you speak about how close you both are when speaking to chapters they will consider you a "package deal". A package deal is when a house is likely to ask back an undesirable girl because a targeted/wanted potential member is at risk of dropping without them. This could hurt you when it comes to the "top" houses because you are more replaceable to them. What I would suggest you do if being in the same house is really that important to you is target the middle tier houses where you will seem more like an asset because they'll be more likely to take you both. Also, practice conversations with your sister and make sure you both are sparkling when you go through recruitment. If this does not work your last resort to be together would be for you to get into a house that COBs and for her to attend events in the spring to get a bid. Hopefully everything works out for you two!
#3 by: ???
(sorry) I'm not a twin so I don't know the emotions you are facing. But I was a freshman last year and I had a chance to choose the same house as my sister, who is one grade ahead of me, or select a different house. We are very close and my mother really wanted us to be together. But I chose a different house and am very happy I did. I knew my sister and I would always be close and we didn't need to wear the same letters to prove that, but I also knew that college was a time to expand my horizons and figure out who I am on my own. I am having very different experiences than she did, but we remain close. I also am making fast friends my own age and will be with them for the rest of my college years. I didn't want to just keep doing the same thing over and over in my sister's shadow. And she understood. Choosing a different house was absolutely best for me.
#4 by: Lol
Dude. Branch the f out. I'm a twin. What are u going to do after college... Bye bye. We're not 5 anymore and u sure as hell aren't going to get into one if you say " you're inseparable". Like you're 18 years old. This isn't ur boyfriend of something. Like being at the same school should be fine as it is. If you're just comin to school to relive your whole life then idk what to tell u, regardless if you're close. You sound like u have a social problem by saying these things which I'm sure u don't...
#6 by: Honest
My house takes twins. We have about seven sets of twins and dozens of sets of sister but twins are the sort of thing that we try and take both, or neither. Now that's only because we understand wanting to be in the same house as your sister. Chances are if we like both you and your twin, you'll both get a bid from us. Unless one of you doesn't make our grade cuts or is absolutely insufferable, you'll continue to make it through recruitment together for my house.
#8 by: Welllllll
I'm a twin and I wouldn't consider joining the same house as my sister. In fact, we never considered going to the same college. We decided a long time ago that it was bad enough that high school was just like elementary school, with people assuming that because we look alike we also have the same personality and talents. So college provided the perfect chance to figure out who we are on our own. We still talk every day. But she's at U. of Wisconsin for business (we're from suburban Chicago) and I'm at Mizzou for J-School and we are the happiest we've ever been. The only thing I wish is that she was having as good a Greek experience as I am because the sorority/fraternity system at Wisconsin kind of sucks.
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by: ^Jun 17, 2015 7:12:53 AM
Wow. I cringed reading your message. Do you know how to spell out the word "you"?
What you're saying is correct though (but harsh). @OP, it's true. You should both go into recruitment with an open mind and not planning on joining the same house. Don't try to purposefully join the same house or purposefully join a different house. Go into it as if you were the only one. Y'all will be there for each other the whole week, and you're in this experience together, but when you're trying to decide which house you really really want, don't base your decision on what house she really loves. You may not be able to get the house you really really want if y'all go into it as a package deal. If y'all end up loving the same house and that house ends up loving both of you, then thats great!! Go for it. I think it would be so much fun to be able to share your letters and your experience with your twin. It would be really special. But it would also be really special for both of you to find your place without the other twin. You'll still be at the same school and you'll still be best friends, but you'll get to do your own thing inside of your sororities. You'll get to have something thats special and unique for YOU.
I say go into it with an open mind and make sure the sororities know that you aren't going into it as a package deal and that y'all want to have your own experiences and that y'all both want to end up where you're supposed to, in the same house or not. Just go with your heart!
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