What I know now

I am OOR and accepted a bid from one of the top OR houses. I ranked houses based on alleged ranks and Southern girls in my rush group. I didn't know a thing and to be honest, all the houses started blending together after visiting so many. This year in my house has been terrible. Most of my pledge sisters already knew each other, they had already established cliques with the older Actives, most of them are not and have not been friendly, and they are always fighting with each other. The drama is something I hoped I could get away from after high school. Its worse here. I don't feel like I have made any real friends in my house and still feel very unwelcome at the house. I am thinking of dropping after this year. Its not worth the money for the experience I am having.

My roommate (from the same state as me) got cut from all of the OR houses almost immediately and was really devastated by that during recruitment. She almost dropped out of rush. However, she stayed and continued to get a lot of invites from NR houses and ended up being really excited about her last 2 choices. She accepted a bid from a house that is consistently ranked on here as a bottom house. She has had the best year in her house. She has made a group of really good and supportive friends, she is dating a fun guy from a frat, she is always at her house doing things because she wants to be there, and is having exactly the experience I expected. I am so jealous.

I am sharing this because of all the posts about ranks and who gets the best PNMs and which houses are top, etc. aren't accurate for everyone. Social media and ranks by mean and petty girls on GR don't tell the whole story. I recommend PNMs stay off this site or take it for the cheap entertainment value. I have regrets.