i wasn't very popular in hs...

It's your time for a fresh start. Be a friendly outgoing person but still be yourself and you'll get a bid. Nobody knows your status in high school.

Your resume doesn't say anything about your social standing in high school-- be bubbly and confident and you should be fine.

I think the only case where ME is correct is if you are from Alabama. Unfortunately, the in state people can be negatively affected by their hs status.If you are OOS, then this is your chance for a fresh start. I'm from a southern state that sends lots of students here, and there aren't enough people from my hs in any one sorority to have that be a factor. Be confident in yourself and you will find your home.

Now could be your time. I was quiet in HS too. I was not a loser, but I wasn't one of the popular social girls. Well, I came to Bama and rushed and some actives in a great house seemed to see something in me and I got a bid. My life changed completely. I developed a personality that was there all along but had just not come out in HS. Social skills too. My sorority and my wonderful sisters have been the best thing that ever happened to me and changed my life. Some of the popular girls in high school had their peak in high school and that's as good as it ever got for them. I guess my point is that you're not done yet. Your best self and your best life could be waiting for you here. Best of luck!

Several people bring up the good point that this is your chance to start over (very true, as college is soooooo different than high school). But remember one thing: Do not try to be somebody you are not during recruitment. Either: 1. You will come across as fake (and get cut). 2. You will end up in a chapter who thinks you are totally outgoing and bubbly, and you won't fit in.

Be as nice as you can be (...remember, you are a guest in someone else's house) to everyone you meet, but BE YOURSELF while you are doing it. Trust me, there are going to be chapters who like you for who you are.

Finally, don't be crushed when/if you get cut by some of the "top" chapters, who want the former cheerleader/debutante extrovert types. If you are a reserved person, chances are you would not enjoy being with the majority of the members.

One of the joys of Greek life is having sisters who are going to ultimately give you unconditional acceptance. Some people really "come out of their shell" in college, some folks stay more reserved. Just be who you really are.

I'm an introvert and in an upper mid tier sorority. Recruitment was stressful af and I definitely had awkward conversations at some houses that them obviously cut me. But the house I ended up in did a great job of matching me with girls that I had common interests with and who were easy to talk to, so I really felt at home there. Once I joined, even though everyone was really welcoming, it took me longer than most people to find my friend group within my pledge class, but now I have a really awesome group of sisters who I care about more than anything! So I agree with some of the other comments that you should be yourself, be really nice because you don't want people to think you're quiet because you aren't interested in their house, and pay attention to how each house makes you feel instead of how they're ranked. Once you get a bid, definitely make the effort to get to know girls in your pledge class because it's easy for the few quiet girls to get lost in the sea of extroverts, but when you make the effort, you'll find your people and be glad you joined!