dont know anyone

Lots of pnm's don't know anyone, that's not a barrier to a bid like this terrible site says. People like to come on here to try to scare pnm's for fun and a lot of them are not in a sorority or don't even go to SMU, they're trolls with a chip on their shoulder.

It will be more difficult for you as a soph though because freshmen are more desired. But it's not impossible at all to find your people and get a bid. You are in better shape if you have excellent college grades and look put together with a good insta.

Don't worry about things you can't control, you can only worry about what YOU can affect. Try to stay positive and open minded. Be confident, if you are insecure it will show and that's not good for recruitment.

Granted, this was in 2007 when there was Spring recruitment and I wasn't a transfer, but I went through recruitment as a sophomore (and the age of a junior because I took a year off) at SMU. I don't think you being a transfer and not knowing girls will be as much as a hinderance as you think. A lot of the girls didn't really know people, or only knew girls on a surface level, and just knowing somebody on a surface level wasn't going to really help them. But they did fine. And you will, too. (Hell, I was dropped from both of the sororities my closest friends were in the first day and they weren't even top houses!)

I can't speak to what sororities want on social media because we didn't have to worry about that back then. But keep it classy. Get really good outfits that are classic but are still unique to your style, and really put your best foot forward during recruitment. Personality and class MATTER. Manners MATTER. 

Sororities do care about your grades and extracurricular activities, but if you don't have a lot of extracurricular activities, that's not a death sentence. Same with grades. It just makes you a lot more desirable. But I know girls who got the bids they wanted without the best resumes because they had great personalities. Back then, leadership potential was also something we were interested in. It wasn't imperative or something that we needed, but if a girl wanted to be a leader in her sorority, we did like that. Also, ask questions!

And I wouldn't think I'd have to say this, but I was talking to a girl when I was on the other side of recruitment and she badmouthed one of the less popular houses and that left a really bad taste in my mouth. She wasn't back the next day -- whether we cut her or she cut us, I couldn't tell you, but that was one thing that stood out like a sore thumb to me, so much so that I remember almost two decades later. Now, you seem super nice and I don't think this will be an issue, but just a heads up to be 110% polite.

Going in not caring if you're in a top house or not is a GREAT way to go into rush. You WILL have a great social life either way, and I think that's what people worry about. (And popularity doesn't even cross your mind once you graduate. And it honestly didn't really make a difference while I was in school.) I wasn't in a top house. For me, on pref night, it came down to a top house (which is no longer there) and a less "popular" house. I knew the top house wasn't my home. They didn't feel like my sisters. And this is for life! (I'm 39 and I still take my ritual seriously.) It was still really tempting to pick the top house for clout or popularity or something, but I'm really glad I didn't. I ended up with a house full of sisters and my social life was just as thriving. I was even on the exec board for 1.5 years and lived in the house for 2. Best years of my life!

Good luck!