sorority rushing a second time in the fall? adpi?

You do Have a chance. I was lucky. I really clicked with the sister that rushed me round one at Adpi. I really wanted them too as a freshman. Not trying to burst your bubble but I am a senior now and have out grown a lot of the sorority functions period. Please keep an open mind. Houses have cliches like HS ) all of them do. I do not you to think Adpi is perfect. It is not. Trust me, I should know I am in this house. Best of Luck to you.

This is painfully transparent.

Rec letters do not mean that much. I had a couple friends in Adpi that made some difference. The more people you know in a house the better . They will speak up for you. I really cliched with the girl that rushed me! I fit their mold. Pretty, studious, genuine, outgoing ,. My insta had no party pictures. You have to be a fit to get into Adpi. Please do not put all your hopes in Adpi. There are other good houses out there. I felt the same way you did back then. Not anymore.

So you only know the one girl in ADPi who you are kinda friends with? Because if you don't really have close friends in it now that you vibe with super well, and you weren't feeling it with them the first time you rushed, then why is ADPi your dream house? I promise I'm not asking this in a mean or rude way at all, but most of the time when girls really really want a certain house, it's because they felt like they could talk for hours with the girls, like they didn't have to force anything, no awkward moments and they feel like they've known these girls forever and already see them as sisters. It doesn't sound like you had that experience with ADPi at all, which I feel like might mean you're caught up in how much you love ADPi's vibe/image/reputation, but not really focusing on the girls themselves.

I could see if you knew a bunch of other girls (besides the ones who rushed you) and had gotten really close with them and thought they were amazing people, why you would want to rush again and get a bid to ADPi. But just based off what you're saying, you didn't have anything in common with the ones who rushed you, and you're only at a polite surface level friendship with the one girl. And while it's true that maybe you just happened to be paired with some girls that you didn't click with right away, I still think you should rush again and forget the letters of the houses you're in, and really try and find the house where the time passes quickly, you don't want to leave, and you feel like you could talk to them about anything and everything. A good tip is to never go with the house that you feel nervous before going into because you're trying so hard to give a good impression - go with the house that can walk into and let your true personality and interests show. I've seen it time and time again where girls pick a house because of the letters/rep/image and end up miserable because the exciting part of announcing that you're in XYZ house and wearing letters on campus and stuff lasts about a week and then reality will hit and it comes down to actually making genuine friendships with the girls.

From what you've said about yourself, I can think of a handful of houses that might also be a good fit for you just off the top of my head (kd, xo, pi phi). I think it would be a mistake to go back in with only eyes for ADPi. Unless this time around is different and you really connect with the girls, I think you will have a much better experience if you let yourself be excited about other houses.

But good luck, I hope I didn't come off as rude or a know it all, I'm just giving my honest input and hopefully offered a new perspective! I truly hope you find your dream house!

I went through the same exact thing as you did. Coincidentally, during my freshman year I met girls that were in my “dream house” through different organizations on campus. I re rushed sophomore year and ended up getting my dream house. I didn’t get rushed by the girls that I knew, but when considering me, the girl rushing me asked around if anyone knew me, and the girls that I met freshman year said they really liked me and vouched for my character which helped my case. So, it’s not impossible but definitely try to open yourself up to more than one chapter. Also, don’t meet girls on campus in ADPI for the sole intention of impressing them so they have something good to say about you, I’m sure this is obvious but yeah just had to put that out there! For me, all of this just happened naturally. Good luck!

Ok I have to ask- if they dropped you why do you want to be there so badly? I understand you didn't find your fit, but maybe they weren't yours? So many people think it's about looks and status, but I had three rec letters for ADPi and am- by all reviews- an attractive girl. I was dropped first round. I ended up in another house, after thinking I was FOR SURE ADPi. I thought I had a great convo, I was obviously assigned a "good rusher"- and I was shocked not to be asked back. But you know what? I LOVE my house, and I wouldn't change it for the world. If ADPi was the only house not to ask you back, like they did to me, why would you want to go to them? I'm genuinely curious

Hey girl! Choose the house that loves you the same way you love them. It is a two way thing, go where you feel comfortable and happy. It is not about just the image, you are a sister for life! Best of luck, keep an open mind and try your best in every house and you will be happy! I promise!

I know everyone will tell you to not be set on one house and if you’re already set on adpi, people’s advice isn’t going to change anything. But I just want you to know when you’re on the outside, adpi (or any particular house) can seem perfect. You only see the pics on ig, everyone looks so pretty and happy, but you don’t see the every day. Adpi is just like every house, there are mean girls and nice girls, friend groups, stunning girls and average girls. And since you don’t know the girls, you think they all fit the stereotype- classy, beautiful, studious. I ended up joining a house that has a party reputation. Does every girl party? No. We have studious girls, religious girls, and girls who love to go out just like adpi. Every house is like this. Don’t base your opinion off of the stereotypes.