rush disapppointment

The week is only have over (well, recruitment events are only half over). Try and tell your daughter to give the chapters that want her a chance. Don't let her drop out of recruitment and don't let her suicide.
Trust the system.
At the end of the week, if she gets a bid to a place she is miserable in after a few weeks, she can reevaluate. but Recruitment is SO overwhelming that it is easy to make knee-jerk reaction.

Thanks for the information. How do you know if a house is COBing and how do you let them know you're interested?

Very few houses COB and it is usually the ones that don't get to quota. Don't have your daughter hold out for a COB opportunity. There are all types of girls in each and every sorority! Don't listen to the opinions on this website. Most women can find a home in each and every sorority!

She can go to PHA after recruitment or email the membership chair of houses to cob

only tips
1) don't suicide
2) don't drop rush hoping to cob
3) don't go into the houses that ask you back with a bad attitude

4) do try and trust the system
5) do let go of the houses that don't ask you back
6) do try and give the houses that DO ask you back a chance

Best advice I ever received going through recruitment was, act like every house you go into is you top choice. Houses put so much time and effort into this week and you may be surprised what house you fit into with a different attitude.

On my last day of recruitment, I had one house I absolutely loved, one I was iffy about and one I despised. I decided to take a chance and suicide the house I loved. I did get a bid, but one of my best friends who suicided a house did not. It did work for me, but I think I was lucky. Looking back, I know I would have been just as happy in the house I was iffy about. The only reason I didn't pref that house was because of dumb stereotypes. The biggest advice I can give is DON'T listen to what other people have to say about each house. Listen to your gut. I know had I not gotten the house I suicided, I would have been much more miserable without a house than in my second choice. Your daughter should give it her all and let herself shine. The houses will be lucky to have her. Have her follow her gut. The system works and I'm sure she'll end up just where she belongs, whether it's through formal recruitment or COB.

I think that pledging a newer house on campus could be very refreshing. What a chance to take on important leadership roles! My daughters are in one of the "tough to get into houses," and they struggle to be selected for leadership positions because all the girls in the house have been queens or presidents. Giving your daughter a chance to shine and make an impact at a house she may "feel" is not perfect for her right now may be absolutely perfect for her next year when she's living in!

Thanks for all your comments. This has really helped. I feel so much better. I guess we'll just wait and see what tomorrow brings. Thanks again. keep the comments coming if you like.

Greek life is not for everyone. I was very fortunate that I was asked back to the max number of houses and joined a place where I am extremely happy. My roommate was asked back to a limited number of houses and while she had a choice of three on the last day she opted not to join a sorority. We are both seniors now and still close. I have wonderful friends in a great house, but are my friendships any better or stronger than those she has made as a non-Greek? Doubtful. There are many ways to find a niche at this great university. There are clubs and organizations and multitudes of majors and even more ways to make lasting friendships. There is no one correct way. Please do not let your daughter think her identity can be shaped only through a sorority. And please let her know that "to have a friend you have to be a friend" is one of the best lessons I've ever learned and it doesn't just apply to Greek life. If she joins a house she will make wonderful friends. If she doesn't, she still will make wonderful friends. It's all up to her, but the majority of women at this school are NOT members of a sorority, so there is no reason she should think that being and independent means being a failure. And one more thing: give her some space to make this decision on her own. If she is sharing every detail of rush and you are living it with her, you are far too emotionally invested. She will be just fine if you let her figure it out for herself.