unfair getting ahead

Been hearing this week that some sorority houses are having PNM meetings. A house was putting girls pictures on the big screen and then telling her PNM friend all about it.... Even had a pic of it. Another house had a "pnm of the week" and told her pnm friend about it. Other pnms are being told everything looks good for you in the fall. Talking about these pnms I understand but then the PNM getting all the info about herself. Next thing you know they're going to be told that they're already in. I know it happens and I feel sorry for the other local girls who may not know a lot of girls in these sororities. I just want it to be as fair as possible. These future pnms are having it easy.. AND these girl are not even family members of the pnms. I know it's always who you know but starting out at college they should be in an even scale to start; then deduct for GPA, no Rec, etc.OR at least don't tell the PNM because then she starts talking and telling people. I am Victoria's older sister and I want to see her have a fair rush.