panhellenic sororites?

I think you're in denial that this isn't a problem. I was giving examples. The point I'm making is that sororities don't want to support other sororities philanthropies, because it might "hurt" their image. It's not limited to New Row/Old Row, as I've seen it among New Row sororities, too. My New Row sorority NEVER went to other New Row sorority's events, and I NEVER saw girls from other sororities visit ours, either. I have friends in Old Row sororities, and they never went to others' either.

It's disappointing, because people worry more about their image than a philanthropic event or charity function. We have a large Greek system which could make a difference, but people put more weight into their social climbing endeavors than to realize the bigger picture. Can you imagine how much money could be raised if everyone chipped in on forming a communal effort? It would probably improve 'Bama's reputation in the public eye, as well.

Pan love isn't much of a thing here. I would go so far to say that Ole Miss does a better job getting along with one another. But your experience is what you make it. If you fall into "group think" you will just be like you are describing. I am New Row and have good friends both Old and New row who think for them selves. Having friends in other housea doesn't make you a bad sister, it makes you a good person.

Ok, to be fair, it is also a means of time. It's HARD to keep up with classes and all of your own sorority's events. Adding on someone else's event sometimes just isn't possible. You can't be in two places at once, even if you want to be :)

"this is important, who else hangs out with the same circle of frat boys."

Sadly, this is accurate. A lot of people at Alabama are too concerned with what everyone else is doing, that they fail to stand up for their own beliefs and convictions. We can use the "I don't have time" excuse, but if you have time to "netflix and chill", there's a pretty good chance you could fit in an appearance at a philanthropy event as well, or at least make a donation if you can't be there.

A guaran-dam-tee you that greeklife at Bama and the degree of "pan love" among the houses is as strong as anywhere that is similiar to Bama's greek system (large state university with a bunch of houses).