Not getting #1 pick: Did this happen to anyone else?

I could be wrong but I don’t think your rho chi is allowed to say that…..even if they are unaffiliated is that not a form of bid promising???

Hey girl! While I don’t think this is common, you’re definitely not alone. This same thing happened to me on Bid Day. I was having a really great rush and then I didn’t get my top pick in the end. Personally, I got a little caught up in the “tier talk” and then felt terrible when a “better” house passed on me and I ended up in my third favorite. All I can say is that I know it stings a little right now but try to go in with a positive attitude because this house wanted YOU! I made life long friends and have wonderful memories and it all worked out how it was supposed to even if it wasn’t how I initially planned! Have a great freshman year and get out there and meet your new sisters!

I’m sure it did happen to many other people. It’s a shame that your RX misled you. I imagine she did it with the best of intentions-to calm your nerves. The truth of the matter is that when you attend a pref party, you are going to be somewhere on that sorority’s bid list. So you were on your #1’s bid list. It’s just they they filled to quota before your(and a lot of other girls) name came up. When that happens, the computer will go to your #2 and see where your name appears on that list. If #2 hasn’t filled to quota yet, your will have a bid to #2, and that’s what happened. I realize had the RX explained how it actually works, you would’ve enjoyed bid day more. But remember, you’re in a house that wanted you so make the most of it. Find your people within that house. Have fun going to swaps, and football games, and just hanging out at the house. Go have your meals at the house and sit with a different group every day until you find your girls. Ask some pledge sisters to grab a coffee with you. If there are sisters in your dorm walk with them to the house. Go out of your way to make connections, and I dare say that in a month you’ll be having the time of your life!

Just to add on to the other comments - you said you thought you hit it off with your first choice - you did! You made it to pref which means that sorority wanted you as a sister and you would have fit in fine there. But this is where it just becomes a numbers game and, tbh, a little luck. Though they loved you, and your friends would have been pulling for you, there were others that were just ahead of you in the queue. Some might have been higher ranked because of connections, or resume, or really a million other arbitrary reasons. I can tell you that the process of deciding the bid lists is NOT easy because we have so many amazing PNMs to choose from here. So please know not getting your first choice was not personal and enjoy your new membership period with your new sorority. Our "worst" sororities would be at least mid tier or above at other schools - you made it into the system and you will quickly find tiers just do not matter. Have fun!

Report your Rho Chi

The rho chi didn’t do anything wrong in this sitch. As usually girls do get their #1. But in rush anything can happen and it really was a numbers issue at that point. If you made it to pref they definitely wanted you. It could be something as silly as depending on quota if they had 130 girls you could have been 131. The house you are in really wanted you so definitely give it a chance and you may surprise yourself and be glad things worked out the way they did.

THEY ARE ALL GOOD AT BAMA! YOU LANDED WHERE YOU ARE LOVED AND WANTED. GO ENJOY EVERY MINUTE! RTR!

Thanks everyone for your kind answers! I’m going to make the best of it, I really just needed a little validation and assurance that I wasn’t alone. Appreciate you all!

If they invited you to pref it means that they could see you as their sister. The girls who you talked to may feel the same way you do. They probably really wanted you in their house but due to the algorithm it didn’t work out. All the chapters are great and you will grow to love your house and your sisters.

Don’t feel bad at all the same thing happened to me last year but I’m glad I trusted the process because I love my house and it felt good knowing that they wanted me there too!