Importance of being genuinely positive

To be very clear- toxic positivity is not what I am talking about here. There is no reason to say things that aren’t true. But there is a big case to be made for learning to not speak negatively about any of the Panhellenic chapters, if you wish to join one. You really need to begin practicing that now, before it’s too late.

One thing many don’t understand or realize going into sorority recruitment is that talking about other sororities is almost always a bad idea.

No matter how much you mention you are open minded, the moment you talk about the sorority chapter all your friends are in or the chapter you are legacy of, your chances of being invited back are diminished.

Trust me. I was dropped by every single sorority except the sorority I was a legacy of by the second day.

So as a PNM, avoid mentioning any other sororities even if a sister asks you how recruitment is going or how you feel about the other sororities on campus.

That means: don’t mention another sorority chapter by name or even infer you’re talking about another sorority on campus.

And even more importantly, don’t talk poorly about any sorority chapter (or fraternity) on campus even if you didn’t like them or they treated you poorly.

Until you learn this, you really have little to no chance of having a good recruitment experience. Positive talk equals a positive image. Negative talk just makes you look less desirable in every way.