To the girls who think they don’t have friends
by: Senior active aka mom
I am seeing a lot heartbreaking posts about girls who feel like they aren’t connecting with their pledge class or sorority right away or they’re concerned they don’t have friends yet. So girls, if this is you, listen up!
I am a senior active this year, I honestly didn’t find my close group of friends until sophomore year, and even then (and now) it still changes. Yes, I have my best friends, but I also have made new friendships every year I have been here and I have lost some along the way (which is OK). EVERYONE is struggling. Even that instate girl who is a triple legacy that you think has it all cut out for her. She is struggling. She moved away from home, all her friends went to a different college, she doesn’t know who she can and can’t trust yet, she’s figuring it out too, just like you. Bid day was 3 days ago, please do not worry about if you have a friend group or not yet. True friendships take time to form and you will find real and good friends. They may be in your PC, they may be an older girl who takes you under her wing, they may be on your dorm floor, they may be in another sorority.
Some of my best friends are in different sororities - but we met because we were both Greek. Some of my best friends are in different PCs - but we met because we were both Greek. Please do not get yourself worked up over this. It is the third day. You have four years and a lifetime after to make friends. Friends don’t happen overnight and they can’t be forced.
Be yourself, put yourself out there, and be the kind of friend to others that you want in your life.
#1 by: j
I second this - I took a while to make friends it was so overwhelming for me at first. I had this idea in my head that we would all be instant best friends and when that didn't happen for me I was kinda deflated.
But everyone is in the same boat and yeah you don't get along with everyone because there are so many different girls but that means you have more of a chance of finding really good friends too.
Freshman year was hard but I made some really good friends but I feel like living in the house sophmore year was where I really became close with so many more girls.
I promise it will get better, but strong bonds take time to strengthen. Your sisters will always have your back.
Comment#3 by: For now
Consider your sorority as an avenue to make friends. They provide events and friendship opportunities, but you have to participate and be open to new people. If no one approaches you... You need to approach them! Use every opportunity you have around every girl in your pledge class or dorm to help other lonely girls out and create opportunities for more time together. Before going to cafeteria or any pledge event ( even virtual events) brainstorm and try to have “invite idea” with you at all times. (“After this I’m going to..the gym, get food, explore the campus, get ice cream, etc...want to come?”) and keep throwing out invites till someone says yes. You be the fun person always doing something....
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