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You might find that you really love one or even both. So hang in there

Don't be ashamed of your feelings - they're valid.

On the other hand, go through pref with an open mind and look around at the other PNMs in the room - those are the girls you will spend the most time with, not the people rushing you.

Both of the houses you have left are amazing places and you will be sure to find great friends from the 300-400 girls there. The benefit of houses this big are that LITERALLY everyone can find their place.

So here's my story and sharing it with you to help with your feelings.

I was PC16. Far OOS, no connections. I had great grades and accomplishments. Dressed well and had great conversation all week. I went from 16-8-6-3.

While I had thee prefs, I was so disappointed that I had lost all my favorite houses. I cried like a baby in my last pref and the Active preffing me thought it was because I loved the house so much but in reality it was because it was my best of theee prefs and I wasn't feeling it.

I was mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. It poured rain ALL week and was so incredibly humid. I never felt especially pretty at the parties due to weather conditions and uncooperative hair and makeup.

I left my last pref and on my way to rank called home and told my parents I was dropping. They encouraged me to rally and think about my favorite one of the three I had for pref and go for it.

I did get my first choice (although it was my first choice all week) and on Bid Day was truly happy. I LOVE my house and sisters so much and looking back it all happened for a reason.

It's hard for you to understand this NOW but please get psyched for pref! Do your best and look around the room at all the other girls who can potentially be your sisters!

Embrace your situation! Have fun and welcome to the best Greek community in the world!

You are tired, emotionally and physically drained, and not feeling your best right now. I think you owe it to yourself to go to both prefs, go to bid day, then get some sleep and give whatever house you get a fair chance with a clear head.

^ I was actually also PC '16.

On Sisterhood I only had two houses left and the one house I really liked of those two dropped me after that round. So I went into Pref with only one house, knowing I was guaranteed a bid there. But I just didn't like the house. I went into rush thinking that I would never pledge a handful of houses because I thought they were beneath me (honestly I was such a brat). I was so upset that I put so much effort into rush and was left with one house that I didn't like and I strongly considered dropping from rush before signing the agreement. BUT I figured that I went through rush already and it would be ignorant of me to not at least give the house a few weeks. SO I went through with everything, got the bid, ran home, went on retreat, etc. Not gonna lie - the first 2-3 weeks were HARD getting acclimated to the house.

But three years later I can genuinely say that this house suites me so well. It wasn't my first choice any day throughout rush but it made me believe that everything does happen for a reason and you end up where you're supposed to be. My house compliments me SO well and I've made the best of friends.

Girl to girl: Not everything works out how you want it to but that's life. I know how certain houses may not be the most glitzy or have the most status but EVERY house provides you with the same foundation of friends, parties, events, etc. If you let your stubbornness get in the way of the experience of a lifetime then you're missing out. Does it suck that rush didn't go the way you wanted it to? YES, I've been there, and hundreds of other girls have been there too. But those same hundreds of girls all made a home of the house they were given.

I have an interesting take on it. I was at three houses for pref. Loved one, liked one and didn’t care for one. I got my first choice, Old Row (sounds like it would have the perfect ending, right?)

I never really fit into my house. Never made a close group of friends. And guess who my best friends are? They’re the girls in that third house I didn’t care for at pref. I think if I had gotten that house, I actually would have loved it. So in the end I would have been better off in my third choice house that I thought I didn’t even want!

Try to find the positive in each house, why is it that your disappointmented? Last year I had three at pref, 1 I loved, 1 I was ok with but had many friends including my roomie who prefer it and the third I didn’t like at all. I was so scared I’d end up in my third choice. Just go with your gut

You need to give these houses a chance. Then, You need to go until initiation to see if the house that CHOSE YOU is better for you than the houses that DID NOT choose you. How could you ever be comfortable in any house other than the one that picked YOU out of All the PNMs?
Remember, every house makes cuts and someone else wished they had your spot, but ghe house you have selected you instead!!

Every house is great at Bama!!.

Go girl!

Best thread ever on GR!!