what happened?
by: ConfusedI had good conversations at at least 12 houses, if not more and had an active even tell me I would have my pick of houses (that house dropped me), had a around a 3.8 gpa, recs to every House, good activities, I know I am out of region and that might’ve hurt me but I only had five houses left today.
Comment#2 by: .
Honestly, the list of who is dropped is done behind-the-scenes. Usually the actives (besides a select few) don't even know who is coming back until they are about to pick girls up for the first round the next day. So while actives might be pulling for someone, they often have no way of knowing if their girl even made it to the next round.
A lot of actives don't realize that they don't know as much as they think they do. They tell you that you will have your pick of houses but in reality they have no idea (no active should EVER say this). NO active should EVER tell you that you are coming back to their house or that you are getting a bid or anything remotely similar. This is dirty rushing and they have no idea what they are talking about. They think that they can make sure you get through to the next round but there is no way of ensuring that. You really have to take what actives tell you with a grain of salt, even if you want to believe every word they say. PNMs aren't the only ones crying on bid day. There are actives at every single house that see the bid list and are devastated when their top girl isn't on it; whether the PNM picked another house or vice versa.
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It really sucks, I understand that. But push through it and stay positive. Don't less this hinder your time with other houses!! Put your all into the houses you have left and really try to find where you will grow the most over the next 4 years of your life.
by: ActAug 15, 2018 8:28:58 AM
I didn’t know houses did it like this. In mine we have to stay until they make the drop list and then we have to read it aloud and vote on it
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by: sotrueAug 16, 2018 8:49:46 AM
as an active there were so many pnms i wanted to come back the next round or on bid day that didn't show up...sometimes it just doesn't work out the way you think it will....don't forget sometimes other houses will request you so high it will push you off other peoples lists too
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by: NOAug 16, 2018 12:30:25 PM
How high you are on another chapter's list does not effect whether you get invited back to a different chapter. The amount another chapter wants has nothing to do with your invites anywhere else and is not the reason you didn't get an invite back to XYZ. Also, the computer did not mess us and that's why you did not get an invite back to XYZ.
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by: AsRCAug 16, 2018 12:42:50 PM
The only way you don’t have a house on your Schedule is because they: (a) they did not place you on their list, which was a managed number based on pan guidance on carry amount for a round; or (b) you were invited but you did not list them how gg enough and you ran out of room on your schedule given the mac number of parties you can attend in a round.
The “return rate” is basically the percentage of pnms a house invites that list that list them high enough to match for the round. If a house SR has a historical return rate of 90 percent, they will invite their carry amount plus a factor of 11 percent so that they should have the normal size parties.
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by: YNAug 16, 2018 12:49:02 PM
“X house listed me so high that I went there instead of Y house” is another excuse girls say when they’re embarrassed they got cut from a house and is completely untrue and not how the system works
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by: ^Aug 16, 2018 1:08:54 PM
Yeah, you're either on an invitation list or you are not. It's very cut and dried at this point. If you are on too many invitation lists for the round then your rankings come into play and your lowest ranked ones are dropped for you.
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#3 by: an alum
At a different large university with 16 sororities I had a full 4 house schedule the day before preference. My preference in this order were: Theta, Alpha Phi, Pi Phi, Chi Omega. Theta and Pi Phi dropped me for preference and I went to the full schedule of 2 houses. Both preference events were great. I chose Alpha Phi as my number one but I would have been very happy in Chi O too. I got Alpha Phi and was very happy (and still am).
The point is that houses that I liked dropped me. Kappa who I liked dropped me the day before 4 party day. Alpha Phi was always in my top 4 but I would have joined the other 3 too. (Phi Mu and Zeta were not there. I dropped ACh0. ADPi, Tri Delta early on.)
Give all the houses a chance. If your top choices drop you still go to preference before you withdraw. This process is very stressful but it is worth it in the end.
All best wishes to all the actives and pnms!
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by: trueAug 15, 2018 7:46:12 AM
the above is 100% accurate, there is so many moving parts in recruitment and the team that is making the final decisions has to factor in 1000's of votes/opinions/emotions....it is tough on all involved especially when you are dealing with the numbers at Alabama.
Good luck to all involved, hope everyone finds a home away from home!
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