anyone else not know why?

Totally! I’m in the same boat as you. I got cut from many houses I loved and felt like I fit in. When I meet the girls from these houses I absolutely love them and feel that I connect more with them than girls of my house. I don’t love my house but don’t hate it, I’m just there. Theyre nice to me and all but I don’t feel like I fit in with them very well. The whole “trust the process” is bs. I guess for the majority it does workout but there are still a number of girls who it doesn’t work for.

I've actually also thought about this before and it used to kind of bother me thinking that a house just dropped me even though I think I fit in well and would've been a good addition. To be completely honest I think houses are very hasty in making cuts... I mean I know we HAVE to be like that but it just kind of sucks that girls don't get to express themselves completely during rush.

I love my current house and it's actually an incredibly good fit for me even though I may have not seen it as so during rush. And I've really embraced the idea that everything happens for a reason... Because frankly everything DOES happen for a reason.

Yep. Trust the process is just something they say to keep the peace, and most girls don’t question it because they end up happy. Personally I don’t like my house that much but, well, three years later I’m still here. People here always say “if you hate your house so much then just drop” but it’s not my fault I ended up here, and I wanted a sorority experience so I’m sticking with it.

I had a super high GPA, homecoming court, class officer, recs, etc, and ended up pledging a top tier house, but during recruitment I was dropped by AOPi and it bothers me that I have no idea why.

I was shocked that I was dropped from a middle house that I seemed to fit perfectly with. Even 3 years later I am a bit perplexed. I thought I had great conversations and really connected. I have a handful of good friends that I have since made in that house and it just doesn't make sense because it would be a much better fit for me. I am in a typically higher ranked house but at times feel I don't quite fit here. I have found my friends in house and love my sisters but I have often wondered what if. Seems normal.

On the other side, I was on an interview team for a campus position and I was blown away by how put together this freshman girl was. On paper she seemed so accomplished but her resume indicated she was in one of the very bottom ranked houses, and so I was kind of looking for reasons why she didn't make it at least to mid rounds of my house and landed in her house. In she walked and she was beautifully dressed, personable, pretty, and well traveled. She was so friendly, funny, and at ease so the interview went great. After she left we all talked about how awesome she was and we wondered about her rush. I thought about how she must have fallen through the cracks. Honestly, I never saw her or heard anything about her during recruitment even though on paper she seemed like our type and neither did the other girl that was on the interview team. She didn't get the position because it went to one of the other interviewers sorority sister. Kinda sucked for her.

Yeah I think it's just something the Rho Chis are told to say to calm PNMs, and it's what they were told when they went through recruitment. I think the idea is that if a house doesn't want you, why would you want them? Sure that's a logical way to see it but let's be real, it doesn't make it any less hurtful or confusing when a house you felt great in drops you.

Another BS term that they should really stop using is "mutual selection process". It's not a mutual selection unless literally every single house wants you and you have your choice of which ones you want to go back to. But it's SO rare that you get a full card of only your top houses. I've personally never seen it happen. It's not mutual at all for most girls, it's the sororities choosing you and hoping you'll also choose them or that another house you wanted drops you and their sorority bumps up.

im from the north and an average gpa (3.4).... i had soo many amazing conversations at OR houses but after the first round i got cut by every single old row house accept Alpha Gam. it was a sad day and i knew that if i was from alabama and i had a 4.0, id be in an OR house.

Once on the other side it all seems so random unless we already know a girl coming in. If we could bid all the girls who would be a great match for our house, we would need to have thousands of spots and that is crazy. Don't take it personally and don't look back. Like the poster above we could of cut you and we don't even remember you en coming through. For you it is personal, for us our list was full before we even got to take a second look at you. Walking around on campus in September and seeing a rush crush and I wonder if we cut her or if she didn't rank us. It all begins to blur. Those two weeks are so long and so many great PNMs and we kind of just do the best we can knowing that we really can't go wrong because the quality of PNMs is that good. Y'all should think of the houses in the same way. Just do the best you can and you can't go wrong since the quality of all the houses is that good. That's what trust the process means because there is so much room for error and so much y'all can't control.

I think it’s two-fold. On the one hand “Trust the system” is kind of a big glass of Kool-aid to keep girls going through disappointment. On the other, I also believe that if you truly embrace your house, you can find something wonderful.
Sometimes getting what you wish for can be a curse. And sometimes what you considered heartbreaking can be the best thing that could ever have happened.

For girls who can’t me here knowing many from their high school, church, etc. (in stature and certain other areas in the region) the selection process can be about more than brief conversations.

Things aren’t totally pre determined as invested - but ZTA e houses and some pnms from these areas come in with advantages (liked/good rep/certain friends) and disadvantages (bad rep/certain enemies).

If you are rushing and an unknown - it is random. And does depend mostly on the conversations and impression you make.

And there are plenty of “pleasant” conversations so you have to stand out in some way.

Am suspect of girls who say “I’d fit better elsehwere”. With 400 plus girls in each house, you are going to find a subset of girls like you, despite the general rep of the house. I know smart, studious, girls who don’t go out much in “party” houses - who have found their niche, love their house, etc. .

If you are “shy and reserved” I think you may have “problems” both standing out in recruitment and in finding your way in “any” house - because our houses are so big.

Some girls do get into a house and then find a friend group elsewhere. No recruitment process is going to fix this. In some ways these girls have great benefits of knowing girls both from their house as well as beyond. \n\n\n\n\n