best advice you’ll get for recruitment
by: Being honest
Go where your heart tells you to go. Not where this site tells you, the ranks tell you, or your mom, cousin, sister, best friend, roommate, teacher, girl in your rho chi group, or total stranger tell you. And just because you’re a legacy somewhere... think for yourself. Your mom or sister got to choose from them all... so can you.
If you pledge where someone tells you to, you’ll make that person happy for a day. If you pledge where YOU want to, you’ll make yourself happy for a lifetime.
Recruitment days are long, but the week is short. Don’t end it with regrets. Trust me. Trust the process. Welcome home!
#1 by: Act
I think this is especially important for girls who are legacies or have in-house connections. I wasn't a legacy so I can't relate but I knew a lot of girls who were torn between pledging a house that they genuinely love and pledging a house that their mom/grandma was a part of. And it was really sad to see so many girls scared to make their own choice because they didn't want their family to be upset.
This is YOUR time. Your mom/grandma/aunt/sister/whoever had THEIR time in their house. But rush is for you. Don't let anyone else get in your head.
Comment#3 by: Legacy
If you're not a legacy there is no way you can understand our perspective. I am a legacy and I pledged (and love) my legacy house.
Prior to me attending school these things occurred. As a young child my mom sang me sorority songs as lullabies. My mom raised me with the same values and beliefs as her sisterhood. I have spent countless hours with my mom volunteering with her sorority's philanthropy. I've been visiting my mom's house on game day for years. I know and love many of my mom's sisters. I've seen the special relationship my family members have had with my mom when they pledged my mom's sorority.
I made my own choice and nothing beats having your mom as a sister.
by: @ummm noJun 25, 2018 10:22:28 PM
My mom didn't sing me sorority songs, but she does have pictures of me in those "Future XYZ" onsies, with a giant bow in the sorority's colors in my hair up on a shelf in our family room.
It's right next to a grown picture of me on Bid Day two years ago, in my brand new ABC jersey. She's forgiven me, finally. :)
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by: new personJun 25, 2018 10:31:19 PM
@ummmno You obviously weren't a legacy or really just don't care about tradition. Just a mean girl for picking at someone's childhood memory who obviously loves their mom and doesn't think it's creepy.
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by: new personJun 25, 2018 10:32:44 PM
^^ I was referring to the first reply not the second, second got posted as I was typing
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by: LolJun 25, 2018 10:35:03 PM
Legacies that pledge their mom or sisters house are just weak and can’t think for themselves. Your mom got to choose. Your sister got to choose. Guess what? You can choose too. If your mom stops speaking to you because you didn’t pledge the house she was in 30 years ago, then you were never really close to her to begin with.
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by: LegacyJun 26, 2018 6:23:12 AM
My mom singing me sorority songs as lullabies isn't creepy, it's very endearing to me. (I didn't say they were the only songs she sang me.)
Also, let me be clear, she never threatened to not speak to me or to not pay if I picked another house. She specifically told me to go in with an open mind and find my house; I did my on choosing and I picked my mom's house. I made the right choice for me and I've had no regrets!
To all the future PNM legacies, Do what's right for you but don't let them tell you that you're weak for picking your mom's or grandmother's house. I suspect they're doing this because many great PNMs are legacies and they'd like you to pledge their house, not your legacy house.
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#4 by: Stop
Stop making girls feel like it is bad to go their legacy house! Many girls have grown up loving their legacy house and dreaming about one day being apart of it. Yes, everyone may not fit into their legacy house but there are many girls who do and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and no one should be ashamed or made to feel that way. There is definitely a deeper bond between being a legacy and going that house that some people may never understand. I will never forget sharing those moments with my mom as she initiated me and all the secrets we can talk about together. There is a difference between wanting to go your legacy house and being told that is the only house a mom will pay for, and those girls I do feel sorry for to an extent. But everyone can find a group of friends in any house when there are 400+ members... On another note, I COMPLETELY agree that you should not go a house just because your roommate is!!!!! It won't make y'all get along any more that you will or won't. I know so many girls who regret doing this because you never escape them. You live together, you go to the house together, have study hours together, you eat together, the list goes on and on. When will you ever get alone time?! This is a choice that another 17/18 year old girl shouldn't make for you because she may make the wrong one too. Everyone is stressed but just following her isn't the easy way out in the long run.
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by: Ummm noJun 25, 2018 10:09:30 PM
Ummmm your mom is super weird if she was singing her sorority songs to you as lullabies. That is bizarre and creepy. Enjoy that sisterhood with your creepy mom.
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