rush crush

That's pretty mean for those older girls to say to you. When it comes to Membership Selection, very few people have the final say, and very few people really know what the scores of each PNM are, so the chance that those actives actually know how you got in and what you could have been dropped for are slim.

You have two options with how to deal with this if you want to continue in this house. Either you speak to your new member educator, chapter advisor, or chapter president about what these girls said and how you're being excluded, or you decide to prove your worth by being extremely involved. Either way, these girls shouldn't be acting as an authority on how or why PNMs got bids when in all likelihood they have no idea, and you shouldn't be treated any differently from the other new members.

Forget about the older members. They will be moving on soon and you will be an older member before you know it. They don't matter nearly as much as your New Member class. They are the ones you will be closest with and make the most memories with and want to keep for the rest of your life. They will also be the ones who will want to vote you into office, if that's what you want, in a year or two. Concentrate on friendships with them and don't worry about the older girls. Recruitment is long over, so what matters now is that you make the most of your time as a member. Also when you go through a recruitment on the other side as a sister you will have a very different perspective on things.