need help! honest advice please.
by: dug
My friend had to drop her sorority before initiation because her parents decided they would not pay for it, and they wanted her to focus on only her studies for freshman year. They said if she gets a job during the school year and summer, she can rush again the next fall and pay for it herself.
But how likely is it that she will get another bid? Will sororities just cut her automatically because she is a sophomore? Especially after she accepted a bid? She loved the one she was in, and we all miss her already :( Any advice or experience would help!
Comment#2by: Sorry
This was her chance at UA. Sorority life here is expensive. She already went through formal recruitment, she already accepted a bid and withdrew, she will be a sophomore next year, and she has budget issues. All of these reasons combined mean she will most likely get cut. I would suggest her getting involved in other campus groups.
#3by: opinion
My opinion is that she should get to know a lot of girls from different houses and keep her friendships with the girls in the house she dropped. She should explain to all that she had to drop out because of parental finances but will be back next year. I doubt she'll be penalized for her parent's woes.
#4by: J
Pssshhh Ill informed people.. look I know multiple girls who dropped and reeushed. Here are the following houses they went: ADP, KD, Alpha Phi, and DG. Rushing as a sophomore is more competitive than a freshman. If you have good grades, are pretty, and have good conversation skills you will do fine. I just wouldn't mention you dropped because of financial issues.
by: ggggg
what if they ask why you dropped?
because wouldn't they assume you just dropped because you didn't like your sorority? that seems even woooorse...
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by: F
Dropping for financial reasons is worse than dropping because you didn't like it. If you drop for financial issues people will see you as a risk. A sorority will never ask you why you dropped. If they do then whoever is rushing you is inexperienced. I would come up with some excuse just in case. Btw I did have a PNM be honest with me and say she hey I didn't fit in to the house I got into but I'm keeping an open mind with other houses
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by: Truth
^^^ There’s a girl that got KICKED OUT of an OR house here, re-rushed and is now in a very strong NR. Not saying re-rushing wouldn’t be hard, but it’s not as impossible as people make it out to be.
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by: Aunt Gin
Most sororities don't have an inactive status (yes, I know, some do). Once you resign, you won't be reinstated.
Better to resign before intiation. That way you can rush again. Most sophomores with good grades get bids.
If she loves her house, she should make it very clear that she is only resigning because her parents demand it. That way she'll have a chance to re-pledge.
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by: Aunt Gin
Yes, of course word can spread among houses. Resigning does not mean you'll be "blackballed" (which is a fraternity term, not a sorority practice).
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#8by: :(
So what's the best excuse to use for why you depledged if you don't want to scare them wth the financial reasons? Because my roommate went through the same thing, but she knows her finances will be under control for next year. So how does she reassure them that she is not a risk?
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even with a 4.0 and stellar involvement? is rushing really that competitive here? i thought they had a 93% bid matching rate
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