need help!!

Stick it out theta- it'll get better

The OP's feelings are real. Please don't criticize her - there is truth in her situation. Help her because that is what she is looking for. Tell her if there are sophmore rush success stories. Or do girls drop because there isn't a fit but still go on to enjoy UA as independents. Help and be honest.

If y'all are all left overs it means you all may have been in the same other house together. Those are your sisters. Make it work. You can do it

Trying to be nice to you but as someone in a "bottom" house you're making it pretty hard.

It sounds like you've spent way too much time on this website if you genuinely believe any house is known for being "the weird girls on campus." There are 400 girls in your house and I doubt they are all weird and awkward, so I don't know why you are embarrassed by your letters. I PROMISE your house was plenty of people's #1 choice.

There are no leftovers in our Greek system, none whatsoever, and your biggest mistake is buying into the myth that there are. I promise every single girl wearing your letters has something to offer. This is not high school but your mentality seems to be stuck there. Going Greek is not about being a "popular" girl or swapping with "top" frats. It's about sisterhood, involvement, philanthropy, and being connected to thousands of women from all walks of life nationwide. These are all things your house WANTS to give you. All you have to do is get out of your own head and appreciate the opportunity you have been given for what it is.

Sorry if this was a little harsh but there are hundreds of girls in your house for a reason. It sounds to me like this is not a case of mismatched personalities (which is a perfectly valid reason to drop) but a case of a girl thinking she's "too good" for where she is. Every house on this campus is amazing so that simply can't be true.

It's alright. KD was a lot of girls' third choice. Maybe they'll have their charter pulled for the hazing thing and then you can COB elsewhere!

I have seen a couple of these type of comments... am I missing something? I do not understand the hate for these houses that wanted a PMN and were thrilled to welcome them as a new member. Why on earth would anyone want to be anywhere else and wish to be in other houses that did not value them and either dropped PNMs or ranked them so low on their list, they missed the cut. First, such women should examine their own values... and if can't appreciate the houses that WANTED them... they should leave and go try to get into the houses that did not. OR, you could give the women who VALUED and WANTED you and think you are AWESOME a chance.

Hey OP, coming from someone who had a less than positive rush experience and did cry on bid day I totally feel your pain. The good news is though that I did stick it out and found my best friends in my sorority. My freshman year ended up being great and I'm not sure I would have had as great of a year had I dropped. I'm not going to lie to you and say that staying made me fall in love with the sorority itself, it didn't but I did fall in love with my friends. I'm inactive now and sometimes do wonder what would have happened had I dropped and rerushed but I wouldn't trade the friends I have now for anything. I would stick it out for at least a month or two. If you're not making friends and having a blast by then I would drop and re rush. Hope this helps, good luck!

Get a life

You really have 2 choices - Fight or Flight.

If you choose to stay and fight, do it with full intensity. Go to every event, eat at the house, find your people. Then figure out what made you dislike the house and work to fix it - are the girls awkward? Figure out how to help them with social skills. Are they not presenting themselves in the best manner? Work to enforce the dress codes of the sorority. Look at the national site to see how the local chapter is struggling and what they should do better and then present that information to the right folks in a calm and respectful manner. Find like-minded sisters who sshare your concerns. Be the change you want to see.

Or Flight - there is no shame in leaving a bad situation. Cut your losses, join some clubs, make friends in other houses or outside the greek system and rerush next year. Sure some houses will cut you out of spite for being true to yourself, but if you've made friends in other houses, they'll fight for you