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Pref tends to be really serious. You get a little glance into every sorority's ritual and usually will be paired to speak with someone you already know personally or you talked to earlier in the week. Older actives often share their experiences and explain why their house is so meaningful to them. You will probably talk about that with whoever rushes you. It is an awesome but emotional night and lots of girls cry, both PNMs and actives. It is no longer your job to impress the house, it is the house's job to sell themselves to you.

I second what "real advice" said. Try to relax and be yourself no matter which house you're in. Forget these silly rankings and rumors on this site. All of the houses are great. They really are. By the time I graduated (2017) I had friends in each house. There are just a few who like to keep things stirred on here. The actives at these houses want you there and want to tell you why they chose their house. They'll be the ones doing the heavy talking for a change. They may cry and you might even cry. It's ok. You're both human and it's an emotional experience (recruitment, Pref. Night, etc.). You'll realize before you leave that this (or one of these) is probably THE house you want. This is why it's called Pref night. Good luck. Try not to worry about what's on this site. There are very few helpful posts on here.

Pref is THE game changer for many PNM's. You'll likely be paired with an active with whom you've connected earlier in the week. You'll get a glimpse of the sorority's rituals (secret traditions) and actives will share what being a part of the chapter has meant to them. Songs will be more serious and less "cheerleader-y."

It can be an emotional party for both actives and PNM's.

Some things you can talk about:
-if you're torn between houses, ask how the active made her decision and knew that this house was for her.
-if there's anything on your mind still, ask! I preffed a twin once whose sister was not at our pref. They were preffing 1 house together and the other 1-2 were different. She was visibly torn between choosing her blood sister and choosing the house she really loved and we talked a lot about how to keep up with friendships in other houses.
-if you're 110% sure you'll rank this house #1, it's ok to tell the active that!

Also important:
Look around when you're lined up at your pref houses. The other pnms in line could become your pledge sisters and future bff's.

AND don't get freaked out if a sister you never met picked you up!! When I went through this girl I had never seen picked me up for pref and talked about how excited she was to see me back and I was like WTF who are you- everyone else seemed to know who they were talking too-- but honestly this girl and I just clicked- I had gone in thinking I was def. going to put this house last - but this girl completely changed my mind. We talked about everything! I put them first- ran home to them the next day and my pref girl became my big :-) so honestly just go with the flow... look around and listen. Everyone in that house has the potential of being your sister whether you know them yet or not.