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by: pnm
I am an instate PNM, very high GPA, great friends with an in-house girl and good friends with several others at this specific house, I have a great rep, had an amazing conversation, was rushed by seniors, even met the VP of recruitment...only to be dropped.
Anyone have any ideas how this could have happened? I haven't heard from my in house friends. How likely is it that the computer could have messed up? Feel free to be honest. I was upset at first, now just kind of confused. I like a lot of the houses I have left and know this isn't the end of the world, I was just very surprised not to see this specific house on my list and was wondering what the reasoning may be.
#1by: pnm #2
I am very similar to you, and I had an extremely similar situation happen to me with a sorority that I truly loved. I even got cut by a ton of houses and had no where near a full schedule. Honestly, I'm still heartbroken, but I am trying to make some sense of the situation and move forward with the houses that did keep me. I really just don't understand how I could get so few houses back, and get cut from the house that I have so many connections and such good convos, with the credentials/background that I have.
Comment#2by: And you won't
Don't expect to hear anything from your in house friends. Its the middle of rush, they won't contact you or shouldn't.
There are a lot more decision makers than just a few people you know. They may not have had enough pull to get you on their lawn.
Time to move on.
#3by: Sorry
Is it possible that one of the actives you thought was your friend actually isn't? I've seen it in my house where one girl can end it for a PNM when that PNM has no idea there is a problem. Kind of sad. But if you still have options, look forward and realize that there may be a better fit for you anyway. I know it is disappointing, but give the other houses you still have a chance. Good luck.
#4by: Well
If your good friends are Sophmores, they have very little influence. The decision makers are more than just your friends. And be thankful that they dropped you now. You can focus on the houses you have
Chances are they liked you but for a variety of reasons they thought others were a better fit.
You will not hear from your friends this week and really, I would not ask them ever. It's not their fault.
#5by: pnm
Hi I'm the original poster. Thanks for all the feedback. I'm having a great rush, even with my disappointment in being dropped from this specific house. To answer your questions, I know that this girl and I are for a fact very good friends. We grew up together and did the same sport together growing up and never really stopped talking after she graduated. She even told me this summer that I would be the perfect fit for her sorority. She is a sophomore, but she holds a position and her big is a very important member of exec (being vague for anonymity).
I'm not so much upset anymore, just honestly perplexed that I was cut. It sounds crazy, but I honestly think it may have been an issue with the matching software and that is why I wasn't asked back? That's the only thing I can think of that would make sense...
by: nope.
definitely nope. the system rarely, if ever, makes mistakes. you were dropped by them for one reason or another and it's time to move on and focus on making a good impression at the houses you do get to go back to.
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by: @pnm
The computer does not mess up. There is no issue with the matching software.
Is it possible since your friend knows you so well, she knew you wouldn't be a good fit for her sorority?
Maybe someone else in the house thought you weren't a good fit.
Or maybe you were literally next on the list and didn't make the cutoff.
You have to understand that there are hundreds and hundreds of girls these houses fall in love with. They can't take everyone.
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by: Active
The computer does mess up, as seen by the disaster that was pref last year, but Panhellenic always catches it. Also if it was a computer issue your friends would have known you weren't supposed to be dropped and would almost certainly have texted you about it, at least in my house
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by: ...
If the computer messed up they would have fixed it by now and they didn't. You were dropped. But it doesn't mean they don't like you and she isn't still your friend. For reasons I don't understand sometimes it's almost worse for a sophomore to fight for you
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#6by: pnm
Thanks for the feedback! It's good to hear that similar situations have happened to other girls too. I guess I will never really know why I was cut, but I think it will work out because I am in LOVE with a few of the houses I still have so I am looking on the bright side and am thankful for how things are working out over all.
#8by: M
In the long run you may actually be happy that this happened. Being with hs friends is great and all but you will hang out with them even if you are in different houses. This will give you an opportunity to spread your wings and meet new people. You most likely will never know why you were dropped but in the end it really doesn't matter. This goes for anyone who is sad a certain house dropped you. Don't look back at what could have been. Focus on what is in front of you and be excited for that.
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by: ^^
Yeah, one close friend does not have as much control as you might want to think.
I admit speaking to the VP Recruitment before being dropped so early in the game would be unusual for my house but it happens. Maybe they had an unusually high return rate and you just weren't ranked high enough this year. No one can say for certain why it happened but at least now you can focus on finding your real home!
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