poll: do you feel like a filler and why

I can only pick one here but I know a TON of fillers at kd, kkg and xo. They go hard on some and the rest are fillers. They all go after who they want, but these seem to have to take a lot of girls they don't really know.

It's not a cut on the pnm. It is mainly them going for a name, and not realizing there are cliques after rush.

I think they all have done fillers but those have the most. The difference is how the unknown girl is treated after rush and that is where sisterhood is important.

Best sisterhoods: axo, kkg, pbp, adpi

phi mu has a lot of filler girls too. Their cliques are based more on appearance though, than geography, like kappa.

Myself and a few of my friends know we were only taken because we had long legacy lines. We don't really fit in with the rest of the chapter and ended up being friends with each other because we were the group that was leftover once everyone else had their friend groups. I love my friends but we don't fit together like I did with my friends from home. It really sucks knowing you were taken for a name and not because the sorority actually liked you as a person or thought you fit in there. I frequently think I would have been better off picking a different house where I fit in rather than being the girl everyone forgets about and no one ever meets during rush. I came into my house vibrant and easy to talk to and knowing you were the legacy no one cared about but they couldn't cut takes a huge toll on self esteem. This is the honest to God way I feel, and no I'll never say which house, but I'm sure there are girls in a lot of houses that feel this way.

I didn't think I was a filler girl when I first joined. I was dropped by some houses I truly loved during recruitment, but stuck with it and joined a house I felt at home with and where I could see myself grow, rather than drop and rush again. I was busy my first year with my sport, but I made lots of efforts to be involved by joining committees, going to parties even if I had to leave early, and participating in Greek week. When big/little came around, I got paired with a girl I had never met, and while it never worked out (I'm going to be a senior now), it motivated me to be a great big myself. My sophomore year I applied for EC thinking I had great ideas and would be a great addition since I had been so involved in appointed positions, but was passed over for girls who were all in a clique together. Moral of the story, sometimes you don't realize you're a filler girl until too late, but even when things don't go your way, it's up to you to make the best of it. each year is a new chance to make more friends in your chapter or get involved in panhel. Don't let "filler girl" fears stop you from making the decision that you believe is right at the time, because no one can tell the future.

When pnms pay attention to tent talk and greek rank, they end up in houses chosen for the wrong reasons. Just because you're a legacy, or because they're supposed to be smart, or because they're old row, or whatever, it doesn't make a house the right house for you. If you feel like you're at home with the girls already in the house. If you go to pref and feel like you'd love the girls around you to be your sisters, then accept the bid. If you only have one house, take it regardless of whether it makes you feel warm and fuzzy. They want you so make the best of it. Any house is better than no house, but a house you chose for the actual girls you met is the best of all.

I'm far oos with no connections in an OR house, so by most definitions a filler girl. I'm aware of this so in that sense I do feel like a filler girl, and my house is pretty cliquey and also is run by the southern girls.

However, I love my house and wouldnt change it even if I could. I have a great group of friends who are mostly oos. I don't really FEEL like a filler girl, even though I know I am

We just dont associate w the southern girls and they Don't with us. Divisive yes, but I am happy where I am. The southern girls are friendly enough but definitely exclusive.

i just don't get /how/ i was a filler girl, but i was. i didn't fit into my ex-house at all.