legacy
by: Pnm 2
Did anyone out there pledge a different sorority than where they were a legacy?
Was anyone cut by an OR sorority where they were a legacy? NR? At what point?
Commentby: it
houses get some satisfaction out of taking a legacy from another house but only if they know -- like really know -- that the legacy house definitely wants the pnm. it is only a power move if you sort of hurt them with the poach.
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#3by: My Advice
DO NOT GO INTO RUSH FOCUSED ON YOUR LEGACY HOUSE!!!
While most will invite you back a round or two (some by courtesy, some nationals may have requirements) the fact that you are a legacy WILL NOT GUARANTEE YOU A BID. I always try to emphasize this so much to incoming PNMs. And like has been said, if you advertise it too much during rush or seem like you are focusing on your legacy house, other sororities who may like you might still drop you under the impression you are focused on only your legacy house which can hurt you badly and severely limit your options.
#4by: Hopeful
I'm a Legacy at an OR house and not sure that I am going to be interested in my legacy house (and they very well might not be interested in me), but my Mother is hell bent on me being in her sorority. She even has a picture of me as a baby in a "Future XYZ" shirt on a dresser in her room.
I may get to Recruitment and love them, but I almost hope that they don't love me, so I don't have to make that decision. I've considered telling my Mom I got dropped if I didn't like them, but the house will contact my Mom if I don't get a bid, right?
I really just hope all the other houses don't cut me for being a legacy at an OR house. I'll be happy where ever I land, but if I have the option and don't choose my legacy house, Christmas might be awkward.
by: active
You need to have a serious talk with your mom RIGHT NOW about recruitment and both of your expectations. Sooner rather than later. Tell her exactly what you've told us and ask her to give you the space to make your own decision. It's your lifetime membership, not hers, and what you do with her life might be for her to advise on but it is not hers to choose.
Be honest with her. It really is the best policy.
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by: Hopeful
@active
I have told her that I plan to make choices based on what's best for me, but she just keeps singing the praises of her sorority, and telling me that every other house will drop me anyway, since I am a legacy. I think where/when she went to school, Legacies were a bigger deal to houses, and there weren't a million of them, so she doesn't get the idea that the house could also drop me.
Luckily, my dad backs me up on making my own choices, so at least one of my parents will still love me if I don't go XYZ. Okay, that's an exaggeration. My mom will be disappointed, but she'll still love me in other letters. They can't come up for bid day, so at least there's that.
Thank you for the very good advice.
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by: But
Ok but you might end up loving your legacy house. Go into recruitment with an open mind in BOTH directions!
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by: Um
If you aren’t an in house legacy, it doesn’t carry much weight at all in old row houses. I didn’t get cut by a single old row house, except for my legacy house that my mom was at another SEC school.
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by: SO what?
Recently graduated, participated in recruitment for 3 years and know the good advice on here is few and far between and littered with people much like you.
Do you have a problem with this? If so, sounds like you are the one with issues, not me.
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by: One other thing...
Not sure what you are talking about re: MRABA. Made one post.
Who's the bored, over zealous one stalking Greek Rant trying to determine who is posting what?
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by: Hopeful
I'm assuming this was to me, since no one else mentioned a shirt. I assure you, she does. It was a gift from one of her Sisters when I was born.
I suspect I'm not the only one who has been in such a shirt, but believe me, I won't be mentioning it to anyone.
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by: seriously?
I have seen many shirts like that at Bid Day on little sisters (family, not sorority). It's not unusual.
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#7by: Legacy
I was a legacy for an OR house and was not dropped from it. But, I chose another lower tier house over it because I didn't feel at home there. It was a really hard decision for me because my parents really pushed me to go my legacy, even on pref night. Please don't choose your legacy just because your are scared of disappointing your mom, stepmom, grandmother, whoever. My mom is now so happy that I'm happy in the house I chose, even if she didn't understand at first.
by: Legs
I'm in an OR house and we drop a ton of legacies. There's always more of them than there are spaces in a pledge class. And of course there are girls we want to pledge who aren't legacies, so we're trying to make room for them too.
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by: Hi
I'm a direct legacy cut from an OR house before sisterhood. Was really upset, but now realize it was a blessing in disguise. Pledged a NR house and couldn't be happier!
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by: yes
#9by: Just mine
All three of my pref houses were houses I was a legacy at. I was not cut by any legacy houses, since these were my only 3 haha. I had 1 OR and 2 NR for pref and luckily was not pressured by my family at all to pick one house or another. That being said, the women in my family that I do share a sisterhood with were ecstatic when I sent them my bid card and love that we share that.
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Sometimes that happens with really top PNMs. Usually though, being an in-house legacy is more of a pain because other houses might assume you love your legacy house and then drop you, but if your legacy house drops you then you are stuck with very few options.
If your an out-of-house legacy then it honestly does not matter at all because probably 90% of PNMs are legacies to at least one house via a sister/mom.
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