hard time
by: nonbamaSo I do not go to alabama but i am in a sorority at a smaller school (didnt want to post on my schools page...) My school does spring recruitment and I joined last january (rushed as a 2nd yr), my sorority is what, if this even matters, a "middle" or "top" sorority that girls rarely drop from/ is a popular sought after choice. I got a bid as my second pic (my 2nd choice ALL year but i still liked them a lot) but after I got in I've been having a really tough time. The girls in my pledge class aren't super inclusive and as many times as I've tried with them its been 8 months and i feel like I don't know anyone. My big and I don't have much in common and she's not involved at all. I have tons of friends in other sororities on campus, and i hate to even say this, but joining a sorority has really taken time away from investing in those friendships and has hurt me academically. I hate to pay for something that I feel as if it isn't bringing me much joy. I want to make people happy by staying in, but i just feel left out, and I've talked to other people about it and they haven't offered much advice. If anyone has had a similar experience id love to hear what you did about it! Thanks
Comment#3 by: Why
Quit. I really don't get the controversy. Sounds like you tried and are trying, and for some reason it isn't clicking. Why waste more time? Seems like you have other friends and you seem chill minced you will be happier without it. The sorority is costing you money and GPA, as a distraction. Why stay?
#4 by: ?
It's hard to believe that there are any houses anywhere that a normal girl could be in and not find one single friend. I feel like the problem is you, but only you know whether that's what the deal is. Remember that for most people a sorority is forever, so if you quit, you are cutting yourself off from being an alum which is something that my mom and her friends really enjoy.
by: HuhSep 6, 2016 10:52:41 PM
The poster isn't enjoying the time with these girls now, so I imagine the thought of "eternity" with them as an alum isn't appealing either
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by: ^Sep 7, 2016 1:12:26 PM
Smh. So there are no girls anywhere in the US that are in that particular house that she could like? You do know that alum groups have girls from chapters across the US, right? This is the stupidest comment I've ever seen on here and I've seen some really stupid things said.
My suggestion is to stick with it and try to find the girls that you enjoy but don't give up on your outside friends either. Take the best of both worlds.
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#5 by: Truth bites
WE can't tell you what to do. Our experiences aren't the same.
Look, you're initiated, so you can't quit now and join another sorority. Why not keep trying for a while, at least until the end of the semester? You're already paying that money, so use it. Go to the house or suite as often as possible. Volunteer for an intrmural team, or a project where yu work closely woth other members.
In other words, keep trying. You're on the right track. Keep going!
#6 by: Op
Thank you for the kind words! I am going to give it until the end of the semester at least. My sorority is small so I know that it can be hard... But I don't want to be a quitter. I do like the older girls, it's going to be hard when they graduate at the end of the year. We will see what I decide!
by: TrySep 7, 2016 9:33:56 AM
Suggest you give it one full year. At least do your spring recruitment as a sister and see what happens after that. You may get a different perspective on things from that angle, bond with your sisters through the process of rush, or connect with a new member in the newest class.
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by: WhySep 6, 2016 10:25:16 PM
....seem convinced......lol
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