the flip side of things

I preffed at kappa and put them as my top choice, however I got my 2nd choice on Bid Day a year ago. Not going to lie, I was pretty upset at first, but now I see that everything worked out perfectly because I love my house and I still love kappa... My freshman year roommate went kappa and we are still best friends. She has introduced me to so many of my friends now who are in kappa, and she is also friends with girls from my chapter.

This site has so much negativity, but I just want anyone to know who might read the ranks or mean comments that, no one actually thinks these things in real life. Panhellenic love is a real thing and I hope this website doesn't take away from that!

I didn't know a lot about Alpha Gam before I went through (it wasn't a big house for my high school) but the girls were so sweet and welcoming! Lots of love to them! I still think they're great!

I remember shortly after rush I ran into one of the girls I met at ZTA. I thought she was going to hate me for not picking them but she gave me a huge hug and told me she was happy for me and if I ever needed anything, I could reach out to her. It was such a simple gesture but it meant so much. So thank you for that <3

Great thread!

i'm from MB and I had my heart pretty set on the house my mom was in but I tried having an open mind! I was seriously surprised when the most genuine conversation I had first round was ADPi. The girl was so real with me and never asked me basic questions like, "what's your major? what dorm are you in?" she straight up wanted to get to know me. I appreciated that so much! She messaged me after rush congratulating me on the house that I had chosen and asked if we could get starbucks sometime. I haven't seen her on campus yet but I hope I do!!!

I'm going to be super honest and please remember this was 3 years ago and I lived in a bubble, and I've regret saying this since it happened. So I came from a large HS in AL. There were girls in almost sorority on campus, but DG was brand new and it would have been a big deal for myself or any other girl from my school to "end up there." I preffed there and 2 other houses and at the time I was truly terrified I would end up in DG and people would think bad of me because girls from where I was from just didn't go there. I actually liked the parties, but I was really wrapped up in name. So the girl at pref asked if I could see myself there and I told her, more or less, I enjoyed how kind they were but I couldn't imagine what anyone from home would say if I pledged there and that I would probably be in another chapter. And guys the second I said it was the worst I ever felt about myself. I wasn't trying to be hurtful or snobby, it was just admitting my deepest fear to someone I didn't know that well. But the girl preffing me smiled and said she hoped I ended up happy and that she had really enjoyed talking to me everyday. She said she came in not knowing anyone and wouldn't change that because it led her to where she was. I honestly couldn't believe she was that nice about it. I always wanted to find her and apologize, but I never did. Now that I'm older I realize I could have been happy in any of hose 3 houses, even the new kid on the block, and eff what other people think.

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Would love to hear someone else's story. I pledged via COB. Never did formal. First time I experienced formal rush I was on the sorority side...I just couldn't believe that's how it worked. But I lived.
I did COB 2 other places. I went for dinner at one house and knew immediately that I did not want to be there. That group is no longer on campus.
I went to another house and felt like they were looking down their noses at me the whole time. They called me again WEEKS after I had pledged my group, and I was pleased to tell them I was already pledged.
Looking back, I think it really was the girl who hosted me, someone I knew only slightly from my hometown. She was just inexperienced and nervous.