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Please don't stress over old row / new row. The truth is that old row is the most desirable for girls who want to live in Alabama all their lives and who come from old money. For everyone else, IT DOESN'T MATTER!

Why would I say such heresy? Because its true! If you get a bid to an old row house and you're from Chicago, are you going to be happy? Probably not. I'm sorry to say that but the girls in your pledge class will have known each other since forever. Many of them will be 3rd or 4th generation and will generally have gone to private school together and camp together. They will have their debutante seasons together.

You will be left out. Not intentionally, but you will be left out because their lives are so intertwined that there is no way you can fit in. You may try and you may have some friends, but not the kind of friends you'd have in another house where there would be girls interested in reaching out to get to know you.

So, think about it. Go old row for the prestige, but then when you move back home you'll find that Alabama prestige sororities are not that prestigious anywhere else. Or go new row and find friends for life and a sorority to be proud of.