i'm not fitting in in my sorority

try to lose some weight and maybe you will fit in better.

stick it out a little longer and see if you become closer with the girls and drop if you still feel this way. sororities are for sisterhood and should enhance your life - not make you feel uncomfortable or sad.

This is a perfect example of just because it's called "top" it doesn't mean it will make you happier. I would stick it out as long as possible because if you drop from a top house you probably won't find another top house that will bid you.

Go home. Go to a junior college and your helicopter mommy can control your life forever.

Were you a legacy? Most chapters are resentful of having to take legacies.

Especially if you were not a person they would have chosen otherwise. If things don't get better then do not initiate where you are stuck forever.

If your parents are paying for it, just stick it out. You can be one of the more mellow, less active members and still get the long term benefits of being in a sorority. If you drop, you will never get into another sorority. There are lots of girls in sorority, that aren't all that into it . Especially senior year.

If your sorority makes you feel disconnected then it isn't the right one for you and their perceived rank is meaningless. If you drop you will most likely end up in a lower tier house but if you are happier that may be more important. Only you can decide what to do with such a personal decision but be warned your options will be limited if you drop.

That's sad because my experience has been that if I open myself to new friends they are there. I would keep trying because dropping wouldn't fix everything. You are in a difficult situation.

Be more open. Look around for another girl who doesn't have several best friends. In any house it's going to take effort on your part. Being a top house has nothing to do with it. My house is lower middle and I felt this way right at first and had to exert myself to make friends.