sad about rush

find out when your initiation is and at least stay in it until then and give it a shot. The majority of girls don't get their first choice and so many girls would fit in better in other sororities but they still adore their chapters! You should give it a chance! That chapter chose you for a reason, would you really want to be in a house that didn't recognize how amazing you are during recruitment? Side note: if you really think you are going to drop, don't go through the process of getting a big bc thats a cruel thing to do to someone.

If you don't mind me asking, what was your top choice and second choice?

Give it time. Lots of girls don't really feel it at first. Give this group a fair chance. Take an active role. You only get something out of if if you put something into it.

I get everything you're trying to say, but I would give it more time. Get to know people! You've only been in it for 2 weeks!

I pledged my first choice house a few years ago and was ecstatic. Soon, I was disappointed because it seemed most in my pledge class had one set of values and I had another. I stuck with it and will not say it is great but it is better. I have found others with similar priorities. I have stayed busy with a couple projects I believe in and tried to make a positive impact.
It is not the sorority life I pictured but it is my sorority life. I am a member of a strong national house and I am proud about that fact. I will graduate with a couple good friends from my house and a couple good friends from other houses/classes. I count that all as a success.

Most people go into recruitment with a wrong idea of sororities. They think they're going to "find" their best friends but the truth is that you have to "make" your best friends and that takes a lot of effort. If you look at what "Try" has to say it's some good ideas of how to make friends in your house. Right now you are feeling a common feeling. Rest assured that even girls who get their top choice feel this way too. It's maybe even worse to get what you wanted and find out it's a little disappointing. My hope is that you will realize that by not suiciding you were able to find a good sorority which is excited to have you in their chapter. I hope you will believe the truth that a suicide would have left you without a house. The rules are set up to encourage girls to look at all the houses not decide on one and suicide to get it. What if everyone decided on the same house?? Call Panhellenic and ask if you don't believe me.

After you realize that your top favorite is not and never will be a possiblity, you need to straighten out your attitude. If you've been moping around that's one reason why you haven't made good friends. So straighten up and throw yourself in to everything. You make friends by working on projects together or hanging out together. People here are friendly and will meet you halfway. But you may (will) have to make the first move.

It's not uncommon not to get your first choice but you don't really know those girls or houses so stick where you were wanted and I promise you will make it home

I did get my first choice and now I feel the same way. Idk if I'm just second guessing my choice but it seems like maybe my 2nd choice would have been better for me now that I know them better (my roommate is one). Anyway, I'm of course going to stick with my choice and make it work, but since this is an anon website I thought it might make you feel better to know that other people also feel a little sad.

I hope you are starting to feel more at home with your new house by now. I think every house has every kind of girl. Seek out like minded girls and good luck!