fraternity parties

If you can't take this kind of control, then you aren't going to have a lot of fun in a sorority. There are many rules you must follow as a sister. If you have a problem with refraining from parties for just a couple of days, then you will not do well as a sister.

its not worth going to!!! You have all of college to enjoy fraternity parties also the week after rush is superrrr fun so you have stuff to look forward to with your new sisters!!!

PNMs, please pay attention to this! It's the truth! Aside from all that, rush is exhausting. You need to spend your time sleeping and resting and mentally prepping and bonding with girls you've met. There will plenty of fraternity parties once you're a new member. I promise!

Why will all this sororities drop us for going to a party? I really don't get tit.

Bc sororities want girls that are looking for sisterhood. Yes 99.9% of us like to go out to parties and bars too but if a girl can't put that aside for a week its a major red flag. We all have guy friends or boyfriends in frats and will find out its not worth it. Just wait until the day after bid day like everyone else

This is just weird. But ok.

Please PNMs, it's in your best interest! Seriously, I can't stress that enough! Someone above summed it up perfectly:

No good will come from you going to a party during rush week. We don't know what's in that solo cup so we will assume you are drinking. If you chat with a boy he could be a sister's crush or boyfriend or ex and we will not care that you didn't know. If you disappear into the house it will look like you are hooking up. If you talk about rush or sororities you will give away who you like and who you don't and we will use that information in deciding to invite you back or not or if you are dirty rushing. If you wear revealing clothes or start to look sloppy and disheveled we will not want you wearing our letters. If you go to a frat house that we are not crazy about we might use that against you. Even if you are an absolute angel you will look bad because you are not following the recommended guidelines. There is everything for you to lose by going out and nothing to gain. The fraternity brothers know that PNM's should not be at parties but freshman guys don't get it so you have to tell them that you can't go. Or go ahead and go out. No good will come of it.

That sounds like absolute thinking. Just because someone goes out doesn't mean they might not have something to offer your organization. Do you attach that many strings to all your friendships? Everybody in your life has to prove to you that you will do everything you want them to do? You have some really controlling and weird attitudes about friendship.

It's not about "because we say so" - there is too much at stake that will not go well for you and the guideline is in place for YOU if you want to have a successful recruitment. Actives don't go out during rush week either. You haven't rushed before so you don't understand. This rule is in place at most schools.

If you think a party or two are worth not getting a sorority bid then go for it.

You'll understand once you're in a sorority. Seriously,stop arguing about it. It's in your own best interest.

Yea we like to go out but we don't want girls that will get us out on social probation

Yes, we will. We like to party but we respect the rules. They are in place for a reason.

I can think of two sororities in particular that would be pretty hypocritical to drop girls for going to parties.

I can think of two sororities in particular that would be pretty hypocritical to drop girls for going to parties.

There's a fine line between being known as a party house and getting put on social probation because you gave bids to some messes who showed you exactly who they are during rush. No sorority wants to take those risks no matter what their house's rep.

That said, feel free to go out if you want. Just know there will be consequences. Big harsh consequences that can cost you a bid.

Thank you

Ty. A PNM with common sense

So since someone else's priorities don't mirror exactly yours, they are wrong?

You want to join a group, a sisterhood, which requires common goals and objectives and cooperation and specific behaviors. It also has rules. Lots of rules. If you have a problem with this, you don't belong in a sorority. So do feel free to go out and party during recruitment. This will show us all exactly who and what you are, and make the decision to drop you extra easy. Enjoy being a GDI who gave up sisterhood because she wanted to party with fraternities instead.

Yess!! Thank you one good PNM you're the best