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Smile - it's going to be OK.

Relax, be yourself and try to enjoy meeting new people. I know it's hard to get a list back you're not happy with, but try to make the best of it. I have been there. Focus on the house on your list! Give them all a chance, one of them might surprise you!

Focus on all the houses on your list, not just the one. You aren't better than anyone. Suck it up buttercup. Those are your only choices now.

Focus on those houses. Legacies are so tough. Because IU is so large and has had Greek life for so long, there are probably at least 5 straight legacies (a sister or mother or grandmother - some chapters also count step-mother- was in that sorority at IU) per long-standing chapter at IU (think the houses that are the oldest on campus!). There are probably another 50-90 legacies at each house if you include girls whose mother was in the sorority but from another school (not IU), and 150+ if you include all the girls who have aunts, cousins, etc from another school (not IU), it gets crazy. Legacies are so hard because if the sisters perceive that there isn't a fit, then there isn't a fit. All houses cut legacies, sometimes even a legacy whose mother is not only an alum of the chapter but also works in nationals (I know a few cases of this at IU, especially among chapters whose nationals are based in Indy). I know literally dozens of girls whose mothers were legacies to one chapter at IU and they ended up pledging another (often due to being cut) and they were extremely happy in their new place. These girls also ended up being some of the very best sisters in the house- always willing to help out. If your legacy filled out a sponsor form and requested notification, then she should have been called. I am sure that your legacy would want you to make the best of rush and become a great sister to a new chapter in the family. Hang in there. It will all be over in 48 hours.

Sorry if this is too much but I want to make sure you and everyone else that reads this has a good end to rush. Stay positive. At the end of tonight, focus on the houses you have left. Think about all the good times and conversations you had with these girls, and what skits, videos, speeches, etc. stood out for your over the last two weeks. If it makes sense in the course of your pref night conversation (which will be at least 45 minutes alone with one or two girls), mention that. Just as you spent a lot of time trying to figure out which outfit, houses put a ton of time into prepping for rush. Sisters would like to hear that you liked X part of the video (they remember the video- they had to watch it MANY times) or X part of a speech. Focus on the positive. This is probably the biggest thing happening in your dorm right now, but the outcome of rush isn't going to dictate your success for the rest of your life. Look out for your dorm mates too. There are going to be a lot of girls across campus who are disappointed tomorrow, and who are going to need an extra shoulder to lean on.

In there