thoughts on how this site hurts the greek community

this is exactly what happened to Theta at Ole Miss. the difference there is Indiana has 22 chapters currently, and of the 4 remaining, how many wouldn’t immediately get pegged as “lame”? Only one. Combined with the current environment of greek life at Indiana, those chapters (excluding Tri Delt) likely wouldn’t want to waste their time colonizing here. so It’s not like you can just colonize a different one and PNMs will suddenly change their minds about joining a new chapter. Where does that leave us? A different chapter will have to become the new “bottom,” until they burn out and leave, and someone takes their place.

I kind of agree with you ^

If you aren't secure enough with yourself to choose the chapter you like best regardless of where it falls on the social spectrum, then maybe you aren't cut out for Greek life. If you need Greek life to have a social life, ask yourself why?

I went into recruitment with some favorites, mostly because I knew girls in the chapters, but I did go in with an open mind. I was more comfortable in the so-called middle and bottom chapters because I felt like they valued the same things I did.

I wasn't looking for a sorority to make my social life, I had one before I joined. There were lots of times my chapter was having a pair with one fraternity, but I chose to go to a different one to see friends or a certain band. My sisters understood and it was no big deal. I was never forced to go to a party to up our social game.

I joined a sorority because I wanted to make more girl friends. Most of my friends from high school were guys and I needed to learn how to better navigate female friendships.

I am happy with my choice and my sincere hope is that everyone is happy with theirs on Tuesday night.

Yeah but if to make them have a pair there is no guarantee that anyone would show up.

Honestly, the best way to minimize this site would be if a bunch of parents started posting all the time. Facebook used to be more for kids, then the parents showed up and the kids left to Insta. Then the parents went there and the kinds went to SnapChat and so on.

If parents flooded this site it would loose its appeal quickly. Of course they would go somewhere else but at least this toxic dumping ground would be diminished.

The reason they won’t do that is greek life is desperate to stay here. Less people pledge and more people drop before and after rush. Greek drops every year and since only 16-17% Greek at IU they have to back off to keep what they have

You can't force people to socialize with each other. They already make PNM go to every chapter. Even with that captive audience, some chapters can't close the deal and thus struggle to make their numbers.

^^^Actually yes you can. It’s called life.

Sorry looser. "Life" doesn't require me to socialize with anyone I don't choose to. I only hang with top tier people.

idk how IU or Greek system can make lower tier houses seem more appealing to PNMs? it is subjective imo. how do u make pledge think house is desirable if she doesn’t feel connection or vibe with girls in it, hard to force this.....

valid point but u can also hear girls talking smack about house and say similar, impossible to censure others opinions about lower houses online or in person

Well that begs the question. Why would a so called "lower tier" sorority want to pair with the stuck up a-hole dudes in a so called "upper tier" frat? Eventually, you all will figure out it's less about "tiers" and more about the vibe each house has.

We have no idea what vibes other houses have. I know the vibes of certain people in houses but not as a whole. For all you know Fiji could like phi mu or asa might like Sig chi. But I guess we’ll never know because everyone is too worried about their “status” instead of people

^ This is so true. I have friends in lots of different chapters. We used to go to each other's pairs when before we were 21. We always had more fun at the "lower" frats than the top ones. Sigma Chi & Beta were boring. We had a much better time at middle frats like Sigma Pi, Beta Sig and Phi Delts.

We go to the bars together now and sometimes we make guys try to guess what chapters we are in. There are 4 of us: a so-called top group, two middle groups, and one supposedly in the bottom.

Now here's the kicker:
Top tier girl always gets guessed as one of the middle the majority of the time, the bottom chapter occasionally. NEVER gets guessed as her chapter.
Bottom girl gets guessed as the top or one of the middles EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Middle girls are hit and miss.

You're right - you join a chapter for sisterhood, however, many PNMs are 18 yo Freshman with no clue. They see ish on this site, they hear stuff on their dorm floors and from guys going through rush in the fall. Many lack the maturity to make a choice like which chapter to join based on the "right" things and instead focus on the "rep" of houses, the way a house looks and what they've seen on Instagram. Unfortunately, the recruitment process is also a whirlwind and they don't really get to know many girls in a chapter or much about the chapter, but they have to make a choice. Maybe we need to move to a different recruitment model.