dear pnms...

This is so true. Maybe you were the girl in HS who was prom queen and dated the QB of the football team and all of your friends were cheerleaders. Or, maybe you just wished that your life matched some character in Mean Girls.

Truth is, most of us weren't. Most of us were involved in sports, theater, dance teams or science/math leagues. Most of us had friends that didn't look like supermodels but we loved them because they were real and we could laugh together until we cried.

What you should be looking for is a group of friends that will have your back no matter what. You should not be determining which friends will be the best based on which girls certain frats want to hook up with.

Be more mature than that. Honestly, no matter what chapter you end up in you will find a group of girls that you will click with. Our chapters have over 100 members. If you can't find a group within a chapter that you connect with, something is wrong with you.

Don't evaluate your returns based on tiers. That is a ranking of nothing more than who guys think is hottest. After visiting every chapter, you can see yourself that there are beautiful girls in every chapter and some that are not so perfect--in absolutely every tier! Don't let some guys'opinion of "hotness" dictate where you will find happiness.

Hard bump