everyone please

This is an incredibly honest post. My best friend is here while I'm in another house. I've heard the same stories and more from her; everything is done for the cameras, the lack of sisterhood, no one wants to take charge, E. Board lacks leadership skills, mean girls, cliques and on and on and on. I hope you have friends in other houses that you can count on. You're also correct that none of these things will matter in the real world.

this actually gave me little more respect for ZTA, well done.

I have a friend in 14 in ZTA and she is unhappy there because of the points you make. She hasn't been able to really connect well with her sisters and regrets not joining another house. I think she will probably go inactive at some point.

Meant to say 'pc 14' sorry

You're correct about the future. There's a senior sister who has tried to rely on "cuteness" alone and it's not worked out well as far as jobs go. Employers obviously see right through the entitlement attitude. They can tell right away who the party girls are, even those who have good grades. My aunt works in H.R. and sees this all the time.

Do you mind me asking which PC you're in? If you're a PC'14 I commend you even more, this took guts and makes me excited for the possible future of Zeta if you do decide to stay (which I hope you do!)

P.C. '14 really took the hits for a lot of reasons, none of which were valid. But, if they, P.C. '15 and all following classes take the emphasis off of appearances and vote in a decent Executive Board then things will get a lot better.

It's so hard for me to believe this post because of the fact that you mentioned what sorority you are in... I feel like someone who is actually in ZTA would never say this and then admit they are in ZTA.

You can disbelieve all you want but it sounds like several sisters have had a lot to say if you read through all the replies. What do they have to lose? Nothing! And no one knows everything that goes on inside another house, not even all the members of that house. You can't be everywhere all the time nor are you privy to the private lives and thoughts of nearly 300 other girls.

So you know what every Zeta would do and say?

Why would she lie? Why in the world would she try and make change for a chapter she is not even affiliated with? You're probably one of her sisters who just cannot stomach the fact that your sorority has serious flaws that need to be addressed. This exact thing is probably why she hasn't said anything in the past week or so, because her "friends" or "sisters" make her feel like what she is doing is wrong.

I would be seriously shocked if this was not a Zeta, I don't see why a girl in another house would ever try and make a change from within a sorority she is not a part of. Also, I hate to break it to you, but if you look through the comments I don't see a single ZTA disagreeing with her. How would she know so much if she wasn't actually a part of it? C'mon now.

Why can't you believe this is real? This is about the most honest original post I've ever seen on our boards. Is it because you erroneously believe Zeta is "perfect", like they've tried to make everyone believe? The O.P. really has nothing to lose by saying what she feels and she and her other sisters have stepped forward to tell everyone they're far from perfect and they have serious issues.

"Wow" - the commentator below - is exactly right about everything in her post.

Thumbed this down bc it made me sad, sorry to hear that. :-(

You should try rush. Most of Greek life is nothing like this site.

This is a really hard question for me because of the amazing friends I have made in the house. However, I have made some really awesome friends in other sororities and if I could have still met the girls I fell in love with in ZTA but be in one of those, I would. I hate to say that, but it's true. I have, maybe, six really close girlfriends in my chapter (which is the case for the vast majority of girls in ZTA) but I have ten or eleven girlfriends in two other specific houses and that just speaks volumes to me. The reason I made this post is because I'd love to see my chapter change or I'd seriously consider dropping. I know the friends I've made would still be my friends and I don't really see myself making any more "good" friends that I'd feel comfortable going out with. I'm not trying to bash my chapter, just trying to change things without being called out and lectured by my peers.

we've already had like 5 or 6 girls drop after last spring semester alone, does that not say something? Like, we really need to fix this or I'm going to drop as well.

There's just no leadership. No one wanted to take charge last year, there is internal strife and it's been like a sinking ship for a few years now. The board just does nothing. It's sad to have to fend for yourself and the house is so divided. There's an image they want you to maintain and all you want is a family of sisters.

This is irrelevant and completely uncalled for. We're trying to promote not bashing each other and you post this? The girl who posted this was not saying Zeta was classy at all, she was trying to be honest. No need to be rude. This was also from 2010. C'mon dude.

sooo many girls did the same thing, this site and the TFM post from 2012

I heard about this also.

I'm pretty sure I know who this is or it's one of a handful who are still here and this is correct.