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wanting to drop sorority as a result of leadership

by: unsure   

I am a freshman here at UF who is a new member of a middle tier sorority. I am not sure how the classifications of tiers work and their relevance, but it does seem prevalent as far as the opinions of my sorority's executive board and leadership decisions. When I was first joined, I was excited to be apart of what I considered a fantastic organization with down to earth girls that were genuine (cliche I know). However, through the past month and a half I've started to realize the intentions behind the majority of the girls here and it's honestly just not okay. Our chapter meetings focus on comparisons to more 'known' chapters and are constantly talking about social media, presets, the type of poses that look good, etc. Our events, including ones that we have to generate points for and should be a reward for active members, cater specifically towards male interests and we are consistently encouraged to bring fraternity members and often times encouraged to bring men from certain 'top tier' chapters. There never seems to be a resting moment and we are doing an excess of philanthropy events, fundraising and date functions just to be 'more seen around campus.' when discussing Dance Marathon, rather than saying that we should raise money for the cause and increase our pool of fundraising for a positive reason, we were yelled at for being 'lower in total donations than the majority of other sororities.' Everything ties back into being facey rather than appreciating the real nature of the women in our chapter. Already, my pc is being groomed for spring recruitment despite not even being initiated. Instead of being welcomed and starting something positive, I feel like I'm a tool in a scheme to roll out pledge class after pledge class and 'move up the ranks' or be more like 'top tier houses.' To be quite honest, I doubt the top tiers will be changing anytime soon and I don't think we have the influence, resources or historical value to reach that point. It especially won't happen within my four years here, and it sucks to know that I might not be able to have my best time because I'm being forced to create a 'better' future reputation. UF Greek life is awesome and the majority of the houses here, regardless of tier, are incredible... so why be so obsessed over changing or 'revamping?' I haven't seen this opinion or experience through many of my other friends in other sororities and I feel so unlucky. Should I drop?

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#1by: Guest   
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Honestly yeah a toxic chapter will ruin your experience, better to drop before initiation than get stuck in it

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by: ok   

OKay I am definitely going to have to make a hard decision I guess:///

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#2by: Yup   
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If you already feel this way- it’s just going to get worse- drop now. You have next year to find your real home. That being said my sorority hasn’t even had a damn date function yet and it’s freaking October so that sucks ass

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#3by: Real life   
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Were you raised under a mushroom? Welcome to the real world. Just wait until you go to work for a company that wants to grow faster than its competitors. You sound like someone who would say that your goal in life was just to work from 9 to 5 and be happy. My, my....

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by: lol   

Working for a company and getting paid/making a living off your efforts as a grown adult will probably be more easily accepted than an eighteen year old who is doing the opposite and paying money to belong to an organization that cares about nothing but rep.

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#4by: whoa   
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what house

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by: Let me guess   

Either Dz or xo. Pi phi does not give a flip. Dz and xo care a lot about their reputation. Xo has been all over this thread trying to self rank. Dz not so much. I think it is Chi omega.

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by: sounds right   

bad look for chi o

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by: Tbh   

If I had to guess I'd say Chi O since they're desperately tier climbing lately. Other good guess would be Theta but they're pretty overt about how tier climby the are during rush lol

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by: Nah   

Def dz or another chapter that spring rushes

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#5by: Kiki   
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Find your niche and be happy.

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#6by: My take    
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Drop now. I took a bid fromyri delt 3 years ago, ISO. It have money like most of the girls. They can be mi e but I felt out of place at Tridelt. I rushedtbr fall and ended up at either theta,for xo, needless to say there all are tier climbers. Not so nice cliches in all houses like HS, I even got charted & 150. Points for missing initiation. The whole process is fake and shallow.

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#7by: JJ   
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Drop and start over.

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#8by: :(   
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that really sucks I’m sorry

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#9by: Hmmm   
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Chi O and Dezy already had initiation .. has to be PiPhi

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by: Guest   

my roommate in pi phi is getting initiated this weekend though and she hasnt said anything like this post. maybe its theta?

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by: Fake news   

None have done initiation yet. DZ is having big little literally today

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by: Nope   

Wrong- DZ had initiation two weeks ago- initiation is always before Big Lit?

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#10by: drop   
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100% drop. My chapter does nothing like that and even though we aren't ranked high I truly wouldn't want to be anywhere else because I'm surrounded by true friends and focusing on myself.

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by: :)   

Great message. Me too.

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