Huge disappointment at bid day

normal, but totally shallow. Basing your house choice on what the smooth brains on this site say is a terrible, terrible way to pick a house. If the second choice just doesnt feel like a fit, that is one thing. But if the reason it doesnt feel like a fit is because it doesnt give you enough clout on greekrank, you are in need of rethinking how you approach things.

Just so you know, no one...and I mean NO ONe...cares what the "ranking" of your house is in real life. The only place that crap comes up is on this cancer site. It is fun and entertaining to see the ranks, but it means absolutely nothing.

There isn't a single "top rank" who sees a girl wearing "bottom" or "mid" letters and thinks anything about it at all. If anything, they might even feel a connection if they see you on campus, knowing you went through the same thing they did with rush and pledging and everything else. The greek system, outside of this site, is fairly united.

So, if you think the girls in that second house were nice then go for it. Help build a house that needs people right now. Houses that struggle just need a few quality girls to step up and take a chance on them and then it turns around. You could take some pride in being on of the girls who turns things around. Build something with them, and you will have that kind of bond forever.

Quitting right now is not in your best interest. You had the proverbial rug pulled out from under you. Few people can recover from such a build up and let down in the course of a couple of hours. You are presently too emotional to make a rational decision. Understand that, by signing that MRABA card, you are bound to that sorority until next formal recruitment (next January).

Give this house a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Seen on a day to day basis, if you give them a chance, you may find your people within the larger membership. You have right up until initiation to drop and still would be eligible to go thru recruitment next January. However, if you are initiated, you can not rerush, and you can not join another sorority, so just keep that in mind. So give them a chance. Go over as often as you can. Get to know your pledge sisters and try to make some friends there. Do you have some friends that didn't rush, or dropped out before bid day? Tell your new sisters about them and ask them over-look at this as an opportunity to be a positive influence. Good luck!

Pledging a house you didn’t even like? Why? You likely took away a spot from someone who would be happy there. I realize they say just push through but that’s with houses you can at least see yourself in. IDK, maybe cut your losses and theirs!

What you're feeing is totally natural and many MANY girls feel this way every year. First of all, you're disappointed you didn't get into a "top tier" house because you really felt connected. Well, those houses are GREAT at recruitment. They are trained to make every girl who walks through the door want that house. The fact you made it to pref means they actually did really like you - but it's a numbers game. You were on their bid list, but just not high enough. Secondly - give it some time. OSU sororities are big, and you've likely only met a handful of your new sisters. If you can't find friends in a group of 100+ girls the problem is you. Go to events, get on the WhatsApp groups, hang out - you'll be fine.