Go ahead and save yourself

No, this person is obviously a member who is dropping her own house after recruitment. Sorority isn't for everyone. Too bad she couldn't make it work in a house of hundreds.

Also, as long as you don’t accept a bid you are still eligible for COB.

I’m so sick of the lying. This is not a mutual process. So many girls are quitting today, tons are left with just ONE house and many were dropped all together. This process is literally insane. I get why you would want to drop after recruitment…. I saw a two active members fighting over using the bathroom during a party.

What house is colonizing?

If that many pnms were completely cut…. There may be some snaps and cobs happening. Do not want to give false hope- but pnms should not be released unless grades were shaky or a rep risk. Sounds like there is a gap in the algorithm. (Unknown girls getting lost in the math)

This is not high school, it is a different peer group altogether. The sororities are social clubs that are choosing their members, it's not a sign up sheet for the pnm's. This is often the first taste of the real world that girls are getting and it's harder for some than for others. No, it's not a mutual process until the pref round.

A lot of pnm's drop themselves from recruitment and say that they were dropped by all, but they were only dropped by the ones they thought they wanted initially. So take 'completely dropped' with a grain of salt. Yes, some get actually completely dropped; not everyone rushes well and some pnm's do have a closed mind attitude that comes across. Talk about off putting.

Anyone complaining about having one house left is kind of missing the point. The sororities are far more similar than they are different and one house is all you can get a bid to. The goal is not to collect a full card each round but every year some girls only focus on that.

The four most selective release more than 75% at each round. This is no way means that the other houses are not selective or that you must settle for something less than. That's ridiculous. EVERYONE coming in has a top GPA, EVERYONE has a top resume and leadership positions, EVERYONE is pretty and social, and the houses are FILLED with them.

Don't let an emotional decision destroy this chance for you, and don't compare your rush to anybody else's.

Yes, some girls have been completely dropped. Doesn’t happen much but it is a definite possibility. My roommate’s cousin from out of state got no invites back for sisterhood.

This. I have had sisters in my class tell me that they put XYZ or whatever first but ended up in our house as their #2, and were so disappointed about it at the time, but then always laugh and say "what was I thinking?". I believe this actually happens more often than not, and that we don't ever really hear from people who end up happy because they aren't butthurt.

I had a similar experience. I started off with a perfect rush and had the best week until pref. I ended up with one house at pref…the one I didn’t want. I almost quit but was convinced to go to bid day. Now, I can’t imagine myself anywhere else!

"Awkward"...you are judging just as much though aren't you. But okay, someone will be glad to get your spot. Have a good semester.

You are stating facts OKAY having 3 houses for sisterhood isn’t shabby.

I totally agree. I have 2 left but they aren’t ones that I can even feel like I can talk in… also dropping. It’s hot. I’m tired. This isn’t fun like I thought it would be. And the girls almost look miserable at those two chapters… it’s easy to see why they can’t keep anyone. It’s a joke to say “someone will take your spot” LOL! No they won’t. We are dropping like flies. Over it.

so you know everything about this chapter after 1 conversation. You didn’t get your favorites so you’re dropping? All these sororities work so hard during recruitment, all types of girls in all of them. Maybe you spoke to a shy one, or maybe she was nervous too. So instead of going back to get to know them better you are judging after 1 round. You could try going back to see if you have a better conversation but no you’re dropping cause you think these houses are beneath you?
You’re probably right Greek life isn’t for you because these houses do a lot together as a Greek organization and the girls have friends in all the houses.
So disrespectful to not give these houses a fair shot. On the other hand many PNM’s have a hard time getting rid of the high school mentality of being in the “it” crowd. I hope you will soon shed that attitude so you can embrace college.

I have already been to sisterhood and philanthropy round both. Awful conversations both times. I don’t think I am too good for any sororities. In fact, one of the ones Imloved is considered to be low/mid tier. I came in knowing that I didn’t have a chance at those “top” 4-5. I just don’t want to spend so much money and time on something that isn’t enjoyable