looking for help

I think you need to rethink your priorities if you are willing to transfer schools just to be Greek. Being Greek is great, but it's not everything. You are in school for your academics, not for the Greek life. Focus on those. Find friends in your classes, your residence hall, and your major. Join some other clubs on campus. Try for COB in the spring. But it's ridiculous to transfer just because you want to be Greek.

I was in almost the same boat as you. I didn't get a bid my first year but all my friends did. They all hung out with their sisters & I felt like I had no friends. It was really lonely & depressing. To the girl who just said "go out of your way to make friends" that's easier said then done. I joined clubs but people never wanted to hang out outside of the club. Most the people in my clubs were Greek too so after club meetings they'd just go hang out with chapter members. I felt so excluded. I ended up getting a bid the next year. Go through COB! I hope you find your home!! Best wishes! I know it's hard but I promise it will be okay! XOXOXO

And I'm not trying to be mean here, but it sounds like the problem is you. I don't think transferring or getting into a sorority are going to fix your problems. No offense. You need to work on being social.

On top of that, I have to agree with Advice that most houses don't accept randos through COB. You need to become good enough friends with enough sisters that they can convince the chapter to accept you...which is not easy at all.

If you want to be in a sorority, your best bet would be SDT like someone suggested above.

I agree with the other posters who said that you need to reach out and try to be a friend to others in order to have friends. Are you seriously trying to say that with 30k+ undergraduates, you can't find friends? Yes it's an overwhelming number, but the good news is that there are so many different people on this campus and not all of them are Greek. Only like 33% of undergrads are Greek so it isn't even the majority. Even if you wanted to specifically not be friends with Greeks you'd have like 20k+ friends to choose from...

Okay if you rushed as a freshman & got a bid then there is a 95% you don't understand where the OP is coming from. Girls who got bids as freshman have never NOT had letters. I got a bid as an upperclassmen. Sure it might not fix all her problems when it comes to making & friends & being social but it sure as hell helps. I'm speaking from experience. When you join you have actives who are so excited to have you as new members & who want to make you a perfect pledge class, you have a big, you have a pledge class to meet who is just as excited to be there & meet you too. All the sudden you're surrounded by all these girls who WANT to get to know you. You are with the same girls almost everyday & get to form these close relationships. I'm not saying it's impossible to make friends or anything but being Greek & having a sisterhood makes it a lot easier & if you've never not had letters & not personally had to go out on campus & find your own friend group via clubs & other organizations you really wouldn't understand. Try & get involved as you can OP, meet people, and try COB. Best of luck.

It might just be that a big school is not for you and while being ina sorority can help it won't magically fix everything.