sophomore rush
by: Ex-(black)PNMI went through recruitment this year and I loved it. It was so much fun and I really enjoyed it despite how superficial it is. The problem was Bid Day. I prefer three houses and I fell head over heels in love with this one house. I felt like I was at home and I had a genuine connection with all the girls I spoke to and their philanthropy was my heart and soul. During preference, I got to speak to three different girls, but the third girl absolutely blew me away. She made me feel like I was already her sister and I was finally able to truly relax. All three of them showered me with love and it was great. Then I visited my other two houses, but they paled in comparison. I wanted to suicide bid, but I talked to my RhoChi and she advised me against it and told me that about 90% of girls get their first choice, so I was stoked. I spent that night looking at sorority crafts and coolers and thinking about formal and that night was the most easygoing night I had the whole week. Then it's Bid Day and I'm sitting with one of the girls in my RhoChi group that I had gotten really close with over the week. We found out that we had ranked the same house first. Then it's time to open our bids and she got the house, while I got my second pick. I remember being surrounded by over 2000 screaming girls as I burst into tears and ran to my RhoChi to tell her that I wanted to drop. We went to exec and I was removed from the roster immediately. Reality, of course, came crashing down later.
#1by: Ex-(black)PNM
I realized that I was once again a GDI. Now I'm torn between waiting and rushing again next year or becoming a member of one of the black sororities on campus. I really want some advice and just people who I can tell my story without feeling embarrassed. Thanks.
Commentby: Lol
What is this "if we are meant to" nonsense? You either make something happen or you don't...
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#2by: Active
2 things! 1. Unfortunately, participating in rush will probably have eliminated you from the NPHC intake process. I don't know for sure but I don't think the girls in the black sororities are too welcoming towards a girl who has picked them as a second choice. 2. I don't think my sorority has had this situation since I've been here so I'm not sure how it works, but you're bound to a bid for a year. If you have decided you may want to be in the sorority that gave you a bid, you can always email them and say something about how you were just caught up in emotions and you were wrong to drop. Definitely not guaranteed but worth a shot.
by: Agree
What do you have to lose? You have everything to gain. You'll never know if you don't try.
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by: Yes!
Ask to meet with the President. Get on it, though, because you are missing out and initiations will start before you know it!
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by: So
...this happened in my sorority one year when I was here and the girl was accepted into the sisterhood and is honestly one of the happiest and most proud members we have...it's worth a shot!
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by: ^^^
100% agree. Unfortunately, NPHC groups likely won't be interested. If you feel like there is ANY chance that you would fit in at the house you received a bid to, contact them immediately, apologize, explain that you let your emotions get the best of you, and politely ask if you can accept the bid and become a part of the PC because you would be delighted to be in that house. Good luck!
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#3by: Advice
The odds of you getting a bid to that #1 choice house next year are near zero.
I'm you thought you were too good for the house that offered you a bid. They obvi wanted you more than the other house did. All of our sororities are fantastic and all offer the same Greek experience. With 350+ girls in each house, I'm sure you would have had no trouble making friends in the house that gave you a bid if you had just tried.
I don't have a lot of sympathy for you. A lot of girls get their 2nd or 3rd pref choices or end up preffing houses that they tried to "drop" all week and end up loving the house they got a bid to. You'll usually hear these girls say it didn't work they way they hoped, but they can't imagine being anything else!
#6by: whats the problem
#7by: First,
Unless you go back and beg to accept the bid you were offered to the original sorority, you cannot rush again until next fall. No, not even COB.
Next, the NPHC groups rush in an entirely different way. You have to have a minimum number of hours already to rush. The only take upperclassmen. They will have an information session soon. Why not go take a look?
In the meantime, you need to be deciding which group you want, study them in detail, start going to their events and meeting their members.
As I said, it's a VASTLY different process. Do your research!!
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hey girl, I'm in the same boat. I quickly dropped without realizing what that meant, now everyday I regret the decision. don't feel embarrassed because you're not alone, everything happens for a reason and if we're meant to be greek, we will. good luck(:
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