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Having fun is up to you regardless of whether you're greek. That being said, you will probably be more active, involved, meet more people, etc. as a greek. I sense that the sorority you got a bid from was a lower tier house and that's one reason you don't feel like you fit in. I see you have three options. One, be happy or sad as an independent. Your choice. Two resolve to rush next year. Problem is that my house took 140 freshmen and 7 sophomores. That's not good odds that you'll get a better house next year. In fact, you probably won't get a bid. Then see #1. Three, make the most of your life as it really is. Go to the house and introduce yourself to girls you don't yet know. Hang out meeting other people. Run for office in your class. Ask a pledge sister to study together. The more you throw yourself into the experience the more you'll get out of it. None of the sororities here is bad. Some are put down on greek rank but that's by older ladies who are defending their old row houses against the onslaught of the newer houses. Don't fall for it. The house you got loves you and the ones that cut you didn't want you. So give them some love in return and it will be returned a million-fold.

Don't drop; stick with it! Grab this chance, run with it and make your chapter what you want it to be! This happens all the time and you'll look back and be glad you stuck around and made a difference. Obviously your house adores you and you'll find your group within the group.

Every house has a mix of all types so it'll just take some time and effort to work things out. We hear this story a lot and many girls say they're glad they didn't drop. Good luck and let us know his it goes!!!!

I meant "how" not "his" above there!!!!

Drop and give a girl who actually wants a bid but was released a chance.

work hard to make your #2 (or #3) your #1 in your heart!

Seriously I could have written this last year... but I stuck it out- I thought what do I have to lose I can always drop prior to initiation. And you know what? now I can't imagine being anywhere else... not even my so called "top house" that I almost let ruin greek life for me when I got cut. Its up to you... if you let this site (or any other idiot) try to talk you out of a house because of so called tiers or reputation then you are missing out on making really great friends and having an awesome freshman year.

I know it's heart breaking to be cut by your favorite houses, and I know it's disappointing to get a bid to a house you weren't thrilled about all week. That said, EVERY group made quota plus, and EVERY group had a wonderful recruitment. EVERY group is outstanding and full of beautiful, smart, fun, funny, genuine, involved girls. You honestly can't go wrong at UA-and the "tiers" don't really matter that much after everything settles down and classes start. You can have an amazing experience in every group. Your group obviously adores you and wants you to be their sister or they wouldn't have given you a bid; just think about all of the girls who were released completely. I think you should ask yourself: if you took the letters off of the house (although I'm sure these very letters will have a special meaning to you soon :) ) and forgot about all of the tent talk, could you see these girls as your sisters? It will take effort and commitment to feel like you fit in, like all friendships do, but if you're willing to put just a little bit in I promise you'll get so much more back in return. This is probably your ONLY chance to be Greek at UA (don't count on COB and it's much, much harder to get a bid as a re-rushing sophomore). Yes, you will probably still have a good college experience as an independent, but right now you have sisters who adore you, a chance to be part of something much bigger than yourself, and an opportunity to grow as a person. What will you do with it?

For Sad New Member-please read these posts! Thinking of you!

Every year new members second guess their decisions after the craziness of recruitment has ended. I think the above advice is great! Please give yourself time to get to know your new sisters. This is not a decision that needs to be hurried as you can drop anytime before initiation. In the meantime, go to the house everyday and meet a few new people each time you go. I know in time you will come to love being a member of this house. As everyone else has said..This is your best chance at being Greek! Best of luck!