Realistic question, please explain PNM 23
by: Fall 20234.02 GPA, from a very southern state, classy style, very outgoing personality, came in initially not knowing anyone but made several connections to several old row houses. Any guesses which houses will automatically drop me regardless of connections and academic achievement? I understand nobody would know for sure, I just want an idea of which houses will drop or bid promise then drop. I know greekrank isn’t the best place to come to but I’d rather not ask my friends this… and I want to hear a variety of experiences/guesses. Also. Drama isn’t my thing. Very much trying to get out of high school cheer squad environments. So any advice on avoiding those houses would also be appreciated :)
#1by: Connections
What does "came in initially not knowing anyone but made several connections to several old row houses" mean? Are you already at Bama and rushing as a sophomore? If so and you have met people in houses and they like you then you should have a good rush as a sophomore. Or are you still in high school and you made "connections to several old row houses" on social media? Because those aren't real 'connections'. Connections means that members know you personally, not through social media, or know of you through very close friends or family who know you personally, and that you have shared personal experiences. You don't make connections with 'houses' you make connections with members in houses, and while social media is necessary to get on the radar of any house, what you described is not really much to count on.
Commentby: Connections
If members know you personally as you say then that is a good thing. Those could help you out a lot. Why would you think you would be automatically dropped? But you must keep in mind a couple of things: 1) them telling you that they really like you and could see you as a member and hoping that things work out that way is NOT the same as bid promising. Bid promising is saying "you are getting a bid" which really doesn't happen despite what you read on here, so don't think that they are leading you down the garden path, they are just rushing like they should; and 2) invitations and bids are not up to the small group of people you have met and no matter how much they like you, the chapter will decide as a whole (however they do it in their chapter) and the algorithm will dictate the number they can invite back each round. The members who like you should fight for you and it depends on how much influence/respect they have in their chapter as to how much they can help. To summarize: it sounds like you are doing great so keep it up, and they may really love you and want you and encourage you to love and want them back, but the chapter, the exec, and their RFM numbers are a factor too. You sound mature and well-spoken and any house would be lucky to have you.
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#2by: Ppppfjfbdhhcbchd
A lot will depend on your personality and how you connect with the girls assigned to you. You didn’t mention looks, but based on what you said about your style, you don’t sound like you’d fit with ZTA, APhi, or GPB. While a 4.02 is good, that also depends on your test scores and extracurriculars for AGD, AXO, XO, and to some extent PM. You sound like you have some things working for you, so I’m sure you’ll find a great house.
by: Fall 2023
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#4by: Cccccccggggghhvvdsfhvvjjv
Be prepared though. This describes probably 80% of girls going through. Standing out is really hard, and that’s why disappointed PNM’s happen. You can have a great background and still get dropped from your favorites because you don’t know anyone.
by: ^
Very true, but she will still be a stand-out person and sorority member of whatever house she joins! Letters don't define the person or their sorority experience.
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by: FYI
For the houses that all Southern girls want (PM, AXO, KKG, XO), none of your stats stand out. You will need to know Actives because so many other (not all but most) PNMs trying to get bids from these houses already do.
For KD, there is no getting a bid unless you are Southern and have a ton of KD connections.
For Zeta and Aphi, your grades won’t mean much but the way you look will matter the most.
Just keep in mind, all houses are good on this campus. Find a house that wants you and will be nice to you and welcome you into their sisterhood. So many PNMs have mental breakdowns because they got released by their top choices in round 1, 2, 3. It’s so dumb. It’s super competitive. I can say that loud enough. PNMs don’t choose, the houses choose you. Be kind, put together, and chatty and you’ll be fine. And stop yourself from trying to
be TikTok famous.
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by: Fall 2023
No, not social media. Like met with personally several times! Sorry I didn’t clarify. Yes high school!
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