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This is so stressful

by: Ugh   

I only have 3 houses left. I don't get it. I have a over 3.9 GPA, in state, ton of activites. I had good conversations in every house and several rec letters. Whats wrong with me. I just want to quit. So different then how I hoped this would be.

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#1by: Sry   
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I’m sorry it’s stressful, but I suggest holding out. It’s hard to know where your home is rn, but would you want to be somewhere that doesn’t absolutely adore you? Whatever houses you have could be great! Just have an open mind

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by: Flaf   

Its not the others don’t adore you, its just probably they have more actual connections with other girls. Camp, high school. Its not always fair but that is how it goes. You will find a house/

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by: Ugh   

I am trying to stay positive, but I feel like a failure.

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#2by: :(    
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I’m really sorry it isn’t what you thought it’d be. I hope all goes well for you and the best of luck!

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#3by: Ugh   
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Thanks...

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by: Question   

Do you like the 3 you have left? Focus your attention on those to see if one of them is the right fit for you. You can only get 1 bid anyway so the fact that you have 3 gives you less to feel conflicted over. Good luck!

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#4by: advice   
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this sounds so cliche and i’m sure you’ve heard it 100 times but please trust the process. i know so many girls who this happened to that ended up in a house that they absolutely love. the good news is that you only need one! don’t give up hope just yet i would recommend holding out. if you’re really not vibing with the ones you have, cobing is a great option too and some houses may give snap bids! if you have a high gpa and recs im sure you may have just slipped through the cracks like so many other girls that come without connections, nothing you did wrong. it will be okay keep your head up:)) and please don’t call yourself a failure i know it’s super stressful but this process is really hard and a lot of girls are too afraid to put themselves out there so be proud that you are giving it a shot!

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by: Ugh   

I hear trust the process, I am trying. It just seems like everyone else still has way more options then me. Honestly, I never thought I would cry so much the first week at my dream school.

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#5by: Keep on   
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Hang in there! You may only have a few houses left, but at the end of the day it only takes one. Look at it this way, you’re closer to finding the house you’ll end up in. Again, you only get a bid from one house. Good luck!

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#6by: Youwillbefine   
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Just wait until tomorrow many girls who had max houses will be cut down to 3 or 4 as well. Chances are you will keep the 3 you have and have one of your top 2 on Pref. Good luck and stay positive. I had 8-8-2 and preffed my 2 top and got my #1. Both houses I preffed are seen on their site as top tier not that matters in the real world. Tons of my friends who had full cards on philanthropy went down to 3 or 4 and for some none of their top choices at the time. All the houses are great and you only need one to be successful.

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by: Big Cuts   

Every girl will go through big cuts at some point because nobody gets to go to more than 2 houses during the last party. Many girls who got almost full cards for 2nd round, experience the big cuts for 3rd round. Hang in there. Everyone's heart gets a little broken sometime during the week. Just wait. You have the advantage of knowing exactly what houses to focus on. ALL houses are good here! ALL of them.

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#7by: Lulu   
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You only get 1 bid at the end of the week so the # of houses now don’t matter! Everyone can only get 1 bid, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

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#8by: RTR   
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My heart breaks for you and girls in your situation. Stay as strong as you can and push through the week. See how you feel about the houses you have left as the week goes on. It's really hard not to compare yourself to other girls, but this is a process where you don't have control. I never liked "trust the process" because it does not always work. Go with your heart and your head as the days go by. You will know what to do for you!

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#9by: Hi   
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This is where many girls in the same boat make an emotional decision and drop. Do not do this! Stay with it and see where you land. It's super hard right now and you are exhausted which make everything worse. There is NOTHING wrong with you. I promise there are actives you talked to at some houses that are upset you aren't coming back. It's a numbers game and not personal. Truth.

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#10by: Chaos   
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I promise you by the end of bid day you won’t even care. I know it seems so bad now, that’s totally valid. But you’ll run home to one of us on bid day and forget all about this.

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by: rtr   

Agreed I remember being so upset during recruitment and those feelings were so real. AND by pref and bid day it was a total 180. This is maybe the first big “adult” rejection a lot of us face so it’s totally understandable to feel the way you do. And I know that doesn’t totally make you feel better. Just know that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel!!!

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