My mom is giving me so many doubts
by: Nervous pnm
Ok just need to vent but my mom is really starting it get into my head. My mom and my 2 older sisters are all the same. Popular, pretty, cheerleader, HC queen vibes. All of them were Greek. I'm completely the opposite. She was shocked when I picked Alabama, even more so when I told her I planned to go through recruitment! She keeps discouraging me saying she doesn't want me to get my feelings hurt, not every one gets a bid and comparing me to my sisters. Im just starting to doubt everything. I have a good group of high school friends, a higher GPA then both of my sisters, I'm not traditionally preppy but I like how I dress.
Any advice or what can I tell my mom to get her to shut up!?
#1by: Me
My only advice to you is to block her out. There are all kinds of girls in sororities and almost everyone gets a bid. If you have a high GPA and aren't totally weird a house will want you for you. Just really think are you doing this because YOU want to, or to be more like your family?
Comment#2by: hmm
Assuming you're a real pnm, just give it a chance you never know how the week will go.
1- If your sisters go to bama you have some connections at least
2- You can always drop out of rush if you don't like the houses you're getting back, but if you don't rush you'll never know what houses could want you
3- If your family members all enjoyed the greek experience, they should support you following in their footsteps
#5by: Thoughts
1) Perhaps your mom is unaware of how much the recruitment process has changed since she went through, when cross cuts happened, and there was no quota plus, so girls who went to pref could still end up without a bid. Even though your sisters went through she may still not know how much more the process now favors a pnm getting a bid than it used to, and that if you get to pref and don't SIP there is no way you are not getting a bid. Tell her that 93% of all pnm's get a bid.
2) Maybe she's not discouraging you so much as trying to make sure you are being realistic about getting cut from your favorite houses and she needs convincing that you can handle it when that happens. Tell her you can handle it.
#6by: OP
Thanks for all your advice! No one in my family went to Bama (think California, Texas type schools). I'm just going to enjoy my experience. One of my sisters just told her to shut up and let me enjoy college in my terms.
I do have another question, does everyone dress about the exact same for recruitment? I've looked at the Greek chic and my personal style is only about one degree off from what's listed. I'd never wear a tennis skirt or anything with ruffles lol
#7by: Lessstress
by: Mhmm
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by: You're good
No problem! Don't wear what you wouldn't normally wear. You will have a better rush if you are true to yourself and dress as your best you. As long as you are dressed appropriately with nothing too tight, too short, too low cut, and your outfits are FLATTERING ON YOU, you will be fine.
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