bid day misconceptions

I did it without pandemic and it was so awkward. After the excitement of running to the house, I didn’t know that many people. My parents didn’t stay long. The older girls that you meet during rush are with their friends/boyfriends. A lot of pnms knew each other and hanging out. I got the house I wanted (considered a mid OR house :) but it was still weird and dare I say lonely. I actually felt that way for a week or two. That is why it is so important to spend as much time at house as possible so you will meet other girls and get familiar with them.

I literally went home from bid day and cried lol. For a few reasons:

1. I got my #2 house. I still really liked them and was happy but I truly LOVED my first choice and didn't have a chance to be truly sad about them until after bid day because I did NOT want to show up to my house with tears or seeming disappointed or ungrateful.

2. The girl who preffed me and told me I was her rush crush ignored me lol

3. Just the sheer overwhelmed feelings of the week came flooding in. It's truly an emotionally exhausting process and I absolutely broke down and crashed after bid day even though I was excited about my house.

I KNOW I can't be the only one who had one or all of these experiences. Bid day can be fun but if it's not the best day of your life you're absolutely not alone in that.

Dude if you don’t know many of the other pnms and the girls that rushed you don’t pay a lot of attention to you bid day can be really awkward and discouraging. Promise it won’t stay that way if you make an effort to get to know girls in your house but after the initial excitement it can get uncomfortable fast lolll

I'm kind of shy and tbh recruitment wore me out. It's an effort for me to be outgoing and chatty with a large group of girls that got bigger every day. In hindsight maybe I made a mistake because I didn't know anyone in any of the houses, so I got my guidance from greekrank.
I was kinda talked into choosing an OR house. After my parents left I sat there for 30 minutes or so while everyone was partying and I felt ignored and hurt. But then I realized that I couldn't just sit and relax and let people come to me. I needed to make the effort. It was another grueling but I did it and ended up making lots of friends.

Bid Day is a very emotional time for PNM's and also for actives. Actives are exhausted too. This is the most important thing they will do all year, it's crucial to get it right, and they have worked incredibly hard and been emotionally invested for months. Members who have just completed their first rush as an active, on the 'other side,' aren't prepared for the reality of it all any more than the PNM's. Not only are they emotional when they find out their favorite girls aren't running home to them, they can even be upset about who did or didn't come to pref the night before. And there can be an awful lot of behind-the scenes snapping at each other and hurt feelings and emotional displays within the membership due to the sheer stress they have been under, which can really affect how they are feeling about each other on Bid Day. Every single one of them is ready to just have it over with and finally put it behind them and relax and get back to normal. It will all be okay, it always is, and everyone will recharge and calm down and repair relationships, and begin to enjoy their house again. So PNM's, don't let a bad Bid Day stop you from jumping in and doing your best to make it work.

This post is reassuring

Am I the only one who had a great bid day???? I mean I did end up in a house where a few of my friends I made that week ran to and they all knew more girls so we kinda had a little clique to hang with the first few weeks. Also 3 of the actives who rushed me were still interested, at least that day

So remember, many, many pnms on bid day do not know each other and feel awkward. Anytime you see someone alone or standing around that day, go up to them and start talking or asking questions…
The more you meet, the faster you will get comfortable. Ask people to go with you wherever you are going, sit with you, etc…they will probably appreciate being asked to join and included. Also, Keep comeing to house to keep meeting people.

Excited for Bid Day do not listen to rumors