Trust the process?

I love my house. It wasn't what I thought I wanted going in, but I am very happy.

By pref round I only had 1 house, that I didn’t particularly like, so I didn’t have the luxury of choosing a house but I had always wanted to be in a sorority so I decided to just see it through...
I’ve grown to really like and appreciate my house but I’ve really struggled with making close friends in it. I have casual friends in the house that I sit with at chapter and go to fundraisers with and whatnot but the friendships are completely surface level. And over the years I’ve tried to get to know other girls and the house and get closer with the girls I already knew but it just doesn’t work out.
I have a handful of good friends in a house that kept me until pref and I know my Greek life experience would’ve been so much different if I had joined that house.
Ultimately, I think that the “trust the process” saying is true but there will always be questions about what could’ve happened. There are lots of girls who wonder how much “better” things could’ve been in a different house and that’s okay. I know this is going to be sappy but at the end of the day, the house I’m in now has changed me for the better despite all the “what if’s.”

I realize the process is different, but I pledged House X “13th Grade” where everyone in my high school pledged. I didn’t realize but it was a bunch of rednecks. I made a couple friends not from High School. But wish i would have gone with House Y, (which all the upperclassmen girls from my high school begged me to pledge). I just didn’t want to go where I didn’t know anyone. I still had fun but not the college experience I should have picked.

I just rushed and I’m feeling this way, I know it’s really early and I’m giving it time but I’m having a hard time making friends and getting into the groups that have already been made

I had an almost opposite experience. I didn't rush my freshman year but I met lots of girls in one house during the year. They told me to rush their sorority next year. I went into rush wanting their sorority but when I went to it I hated it. I didn't feel comfortable at all. I chose a different house and we grew apart. I love the girls in my chapter but I still think of those girls and that house often and wonder why I loved the girls but not their chapter.

1. You're only going to get out of it what you put into it. If you're not making friends, check yourself and see what else you can do to make friends. Are you looking for people that don't already have a group? Or are you looking to insert yourself in the "popular" group.

2. If you feel like you made the wrong choice. Look back at your reasons for making the choice you did. In retrospect they might not have been great. Congratulations, you learned something in college.