Having Trouble Making Friends in Sorority

Keep trying! It’s only been a few days! Every group has different groups within the sorority that you will find your tribe! It takes a while to get to know people and make friends in a new place. A lot of us in state know each other already even if we are from different cities. So it may seem like a fast friendship for those girls but it’s not - because over the school year, there were visits back and forth to get to know roommates better. They already knew each other and later, when there is more time, they will get to know you! It just takes a while. The new member educator can help you make connections too so reach out to her if you still feel awkward.

Keep trying! It has only been a few days, the first couple days after bid day I kind of struggled too because it felt like everybody already knew each other. There are other girls who are probably feeling the same way.

But to answer your question about when to drop, I would stick it out until initiation. If you’re not initiated into a sorority you can re rush or cob if you really want to and try to find a better fit

Recruitment is so high intensity, and the week after that there is a "let down". Actives are exhausted and want to spend time with their roommates/boyfriends that they haven't seen in a few weeks while they are doing work week. New members think that they are going to walk into the houses and it's going to be like they've met their long lost family, but honestly at this point they are virtually strangers! Hang in there, keep going to the house to eat, hang out, or whatever you are allowed to do these days. Go as much as you can! Even then it can take a few months for it to feel like "home". Hopefully there are football games/parties (with masks- hahaha) chapter meetings, big/little reveal, etc. that will make you feel more at home!

I felt awkward too at first, but my best advice is to go to everything you can! It sounds like you might re-frame the way you see yourself as well- you’re in a house where everyone is pretty and social, so I’m sure they see you that way too! They gave you a bid because they want you to be their sister :) Ask your sisters what they’re most looking forward to this semester and invite them to do those things with you!

Remember that your big will help, and you will also have a little someday! You’ll be close with them. As for looking extra pretty, have fun with eye makeup tutorials since that’s what people will see with a mask haha. Have an amazing time in your sorority, the best is yet to come!

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Post-rush, there is an adjustment for everyone. Last year's seniors are graduated, and 25% of the house is now new members. During rush, most members end up meeting just some of the new class. It will take a few weeks of activities, dining, and effort to get to know each other-this goes both ways!
Just know that you were wanted and welcome!