telling your #2 you don’t like them as much
by: pnmduring pref how do we Be honest and tell our #2 we don’t like them as much? That sounds so awkward. could we just not be super reassuring and ask questions the whole time and then they would get the hint???? or do we have to say it outright? or could we just tell them we are still indecisive
#1by: .
When I'm rushing a girl for pref I want the truth so we can rank her low since I know she won't be putting us first. Just say "I have been so impressed by this sisterhood and would be honored to be a part of it, but I'm going to put my other house first because I think it's the best fit for me."
Comment#2by: why would you do that lol
i wouldn’t tell them...you risk not getting a bid from either house this way. even if you don’t suicide bid, hearing this is going to make them rank you super low and if your top house doesn’t rank you high either you’re probably not going to get a bid. just be grateful for both houses and put your top house ranked as #1.
by: Lol
That isnt now it works at all. You get to pref and you get a bid. If you arent in the first list at your top house you can still get them as quota addition. That isnt guaranteed but it's more likely morelikely. wont happen if you are high on your 2nd choice
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by: active
If you go to pref and rank both houses you'll get a bid. But you can still end up at your #2 no matter what you say to them.
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#5by: All
All you have to say is “I really have loved you guys all week and I think your sisterhood is amazing but as of right now I can’t really she myself in this house”. This is good for two reasons 1. You say u don’t really want them and 2 because it gives the active the choice to ask you why you can’t see yourself here. You also in this example don’t say I’m putting you second. You just say as of right now you aren’t putting them first but You are open to hear what you have to say
by: More tact?
I love this house but I’m not sure it’s my home.
I have loved every round with this house and I am feeling torn? Regardless, I know I would be happy having this house as my home.
Something like that?
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by: active
“I really enjoyed my time here and I think your sisterhood is amazing but I'm not sure yet if it's my home”
or
If you feel torn: “I really enjoyed my time here and I think your sisterhood is amazing but I'm currently feeling torn”
I don't see either one of those as being rude, personally. If you didn't love it, I don't think you need to say you loved it. I also think that saying that you would be happy having that house as your home is mixed messages.
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by: yeah
Yeah I agree. Seriously can't imagine saying that I don't want to be in the #2 house, especially since I might end up there depending on how things shake out.
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by: Eh
Eh, as an active idrc if a girl puts my house second because there's plenty of other girls who will put my house first. I want every girl to go where they feel the most at home, if it's not my house then that's fine! I wouldn't be offended if a girl said my house wasn't her first choice, so long as she wasn't rude about it. If she was nice and still engaged I wouldn't care.
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by: @Eh
Maybe the most popular houses can replace any girl who puts their house as #2 with a girl who put them as #1, but this sin't always the case and girls do end up with their #2.
And then it's kinda awkward to have told them that you don't want to be a sister there. I mean they'll make it work, but it's still kinda awkward.
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by: another active
I would just leave it as unsure. If someone tells me they are unsure, I know that they are politely trying to tell me that they see themselves somewhere else.
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by: active
by: active
Completely agree with this.
And I agree with others who have said if you say you're unsure and leave it at that, we get the hint that it's a polite way to say our house is not your #1. But it leaves room for you to go to your #2 and be set up well if that situation occurs.
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by: nope
That’s not true, if you pref 2 houses and as long as you don’t suicide bid, then you are guaranteed a bid from either of those houses. It’s best to be honest, whether you’re going them or not.
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