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I know this is just a Mom talking, but my daughter went through Rush last year and experienced the same feelings! I too was in a sorority, one that would be considered Old Row at Bama...I thought my daughter would get into the sorority she wanted because she was a legacy. But it did not happen. On pref day she only had one option and she took it! It turned out to be a perfect fit and she has loved every minute of being in this sorority. Even though she was soooo sad going into pref day. So...if you have options remember...they want you!!!...they see something in you that you can't see yourself right now!!!! It may not be how your envisioned it working out...but in the end I think you will be happy.

Good Luck!!

I can't emphasize enough how important your attitude is in all this. You don't need a house to validate that you're an amazing girl. You can be in any house, mix with the other houses, and enjoy life. You could be the catalyst that makes your house the one with the top grades or the one that wins homecoming or something. You can make a difference, but you can't do it sitting back and waiting for someone else to make you happy. Not a sorority, not a guy, not your family. You are in charge of making your own self happy. I encourage you to start with a happy feeling that you got a bid at all. Even if its to Gamma Phi when you wanted Phi Mu. I guarantee you that in four years you will cry when you graduate and leave your sisters. And you'll probably be going for a great job somewhere that another Gamma Phi helped you get.

I know it's not on your radar right now, but joining a sorority is for more than four years. I rushed reluctantly at a smaller school, but still in the south. I had no idea what to expect. I had a lot of houses in the beginning and felt I rushed well, but was down to one before prefs. I was going to drop out, but my Rho Chi encouraged me to stick with it (and became my big). I ended up in the perfect place for me (it would be OR at Bama) and beyond a great four years, it opened so many doors after graduation. I was offered my first two jobs because that house was on my resume, every city I've moved to the first thing I do it contact the alumni association and have immediate friends, and a weird aside, but every time I've met a woman who I just click with, it always turns out she's in my sorority as well. It sounds cliche to say trust the process, but for many of us it worked. Stay positive and good luck!