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I just joined a sorority here. Is it normal for me to feel as thought I do not fit in with my pledge class right at first? A lot of the girls have been unfriendly and not welcoming towards one another, even tho this is what my sorority is all about. Im upset and worried I picked the wrong house.

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#1by: Guest   
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What house? Ill tell you if its normal

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#2by: Ok   
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It's normal! Don't worry or second guess.

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#3by: typical   
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Normal if youre trapped in Phi Mu. Good luck with that.

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by: Oh   

Somebody got dropped. Jealously is not becoming.

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#4by: Relax   
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It’s been 2 days, chill! Everyone is nervous and probably feeling the same way as you. Find someone random and try to be their friend.

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#5by: Its ok   
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Normal!! Everyone is a stranger!! Just throw out welcoming vibes, say Hi, introduce youself and work yhd small talk. It takes a few weeks. Go to everything and soon you will start feeling more comfortable.

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#6by: Well is full   
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Sadly, Greek organizations have become so too large that dynamics such as this pop up as they do in any large group. There are rush classes at Alabama this year larger than the average sorority size at many universities.

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by: Bb   

Ask your bid day big to help make sure you are in the loop

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by: Aunt Gin   

Mom, go back to your own corner.
This is the smallest classes have been in four years. Get over yourself. The same thing happened in a pledge class of 40 in 1988 and it happens in a new member class of 130 in 2018.
Only the numbers have changed. The people haven't

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by: well   

Go back to Greekchat granny

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#7by: Alumna   
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It’s totally normal! When I joined my chapter, I felt like other girls had these instant connections, and fit right in (like they were meant to be) while I didn’t have any of those connections or feelings. This resulted me in being MIA (to the very extent possible) during my New Member period. Things started turning around when I got my pledge family (who weren’t people I was expecting obviously b/c I didn’t know many people then but soon I felt so comfortable), and really when I ran for a position in the house, and got more involved, ultimately becoming chapter president. It sounds cliche but it’s really what you give it. Give yourself and your chapter some time. Keep an open mind, mingle (even if it’s hard sometimes), and put yourself out there. Maybe it’ll help once you get a pledge family (even if they might not be people you know initially). And if you still don’t like it, you have options. But really, just give yourself and the chapter some time; you’re there for a reason.

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#8by: Alumna   
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I just read about the part about chapter members being unfriendly! I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe everyone’s in a bit of a weird position trying to get to know people, and are overwhelmed. They might just come off that way or maybe you feel like they’re more friendly to others than you. Give it some time! I’m sure it’s just the buzz of recruitment week still lingering!

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#9by: Normal!   
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Completely normal! I didn’t find my group until second semester. A lot of the girls may already know each other, but a lot of them don’t! Give it time. I promise you will find your clique.

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#10by: Normal!   
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Completely normal! I didn’t find my group until second semester. A lot of the girls may already know each other, but a lot of them don’t! Give it time. I promise you will find your clique.

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by: Yes   

YES!!! Completely normal. I didn't find my squad until between Halloween and Thanksgiving. It's just like anything else -- it takes time.

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