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32 houses?

I meant 2 lol

Sounds like you have two great choices. Without knowing house names, I’d say that if they are both either OR or NR, then go with your gut! If one is OR and one is NR, and you truly think you could be happy in either, then if you are in state or big city southern OOS, i would choose the OR house. It will be better for connections later on. If you are from anywhere else OOS, then I would choose the house that is best known closer to where you live. Just my opinion. You can’t go wrong and good luck with your decision!

I don’t think you can go wrong with either house! But one thing I wouldn’t do is just pledge a house because of connections or friends you have. Would you feel as strongly about House B if you didn’t know girls in the house?

I know when I went through rush it was hard because a lot of my rho chi friends and friends from home were interested in one house and it made me want them more because I felt like it would be easier to make friends if I pledged there. You will make friends in every house and keep friends from home no matter where you pledge!

Excited for you and hope that the last day or sisterhood and pref help clarify where you belong more!

Decide during pref tomorrow! Some of those conversations really help to make the decision clear. It is the most serious round and you will be able to open up more with the actives.

I'm going to put an idea out there. If you have friends in a house and join another house, imagine how many more people you'll meet and get to know. Also, how fun would it be for your existing friends to get to know your new friends in your new house? Truthfully, my only best friends at Bama are ALL in my house and if I had one complaint, I'd like to be better friends with girls in different houses to broaden my horizons. So spread your wings! As poster said above, they'll still be your friends.

This is a good problem to have. Assuming you go to both for pref, let's say you put A as your number 1 choice and you open your bid card and it says A. Would you be thinking about what B is doing right now? Would you be wondering what it would be like to get a bid from them? If so you need to put B down first, and if you get a bid from A then it was meant to be that you go in A. And then switch the scenario obviously for vice versa

This is going to sound silly right now, but try flipping a coin. If you're disappointed with the result, or realize mid-flip what your heart really wants, then you'll know.

Also, to get on my soapbox: why don't you feel comfortable talking to your rho chi? They're supposed to be there to help you make decisions like these and talk through these feelings. If she's good at her job, she should give you some unbiased advice that will be more personal and relevant to you and your situation than any anonymous random person. If you don't feel comfortable talking to her, I'd highly recommend you talk to a different rho chi about your choices, maybe leaving the names off if you really feel like they might judge you. However, keep in mind that 90% of rho chis won't judge your options or report back to their houses about your feelings, and if you feel like your rho chi will be a negative voice for you in this process, you should talk to panx about her.

I think a good way to see how you really feel is this:

Which house were you more excited for when you opened your schedule and saw? House A or House B? Obviously I'm sure you were happy about both but which of the two houses gave you a sense of ease when you saw it?

Pretend you know no-one in either house. Not a soul, only the girls you've met this week.

Where would you want to be most if that was the case?

One last thought - don't choose a house just because your friends like that. They may not even get bids to that house. I had a friend who ranked, let's call it House "C" down first because her friend wanted that house too. Turns out her friend didn't get it and now my friend wished she had ranked her other pref house first.