my experience-oor

I’m reposting this because I want as many people to see this as possible, imo the girl who commented it originally.
Another far OOS girl (Midwest, not Chicago) here currently in an OR house. While I can see how maybe if you talk to exclusively in state girls that are also narrow in their view of possible PNMs that might happen, remember that a) not all in state girls are like that and b) there are OOS girls in every OR house and if they don’t know anyone coming through they may be on the lookout for cute, fun unknown girls. I had a slight connection to one OR house (never met the girl but our families were kind of friends), but I doubt she was planning on trying to advocate for a bid for me prior to rush. She picked me up during IWTs and we hit it off really quick. She had her friends talk to me other rounds, she helped pref me, and she, along w her friends somewhat, are the reason in I’m that house. One of her friends is my big actually! They were excited to see another girl from that part of the country like them and paid attention. This girl also told me that she would look for girls from her area come through and make an effort to pick them up and get to know them because our house said they don’t want just a pc full of in state girls, as awesome as they might be. So, it’s sad you felt so unimportant at those houses, I did too at one of the ones you named, but PNMs PLEASE remember there are girls from all over in every house, and just because you don’t have a connection, there may be girls who meet you and love you or look for you and you could still get a bid. Don’t let NR houses tell you you’ll never fit (as two told me during rush), because I couldn’t imagine being anywhere but my house! I’m not trying to bash NR, I loved lots of houses during rush and have friends in them, this is simply my experience.