recruitment

No, we are doing it right because all that is necessary to maintain the strength of the organization. Everyone must participate and do her part to keep the chapter successful. We have to vet our potential members to find those who will keep up their grades, who will fully participate, who will take a leadership role, who will pay their dues, who will be a good sister, and who will protect the good name of the chapter. Membership selection is as much about maintaining the organization itself as it is about offering all those benefits of membership. "To have fun, make friends, find a place where I connected, go to parties and meet cute guys" - none of that happens on its own! It exists because of members' hard work and dedication and financial resources that make the chapter work. No chapter needs a bunch of takers; to get the benefit you need to contribute your part.

Downvoted by a 'Taker.'

then why don't we do things more like ifc? being in a sorority would be so much better if recruitment wasn't such a headache and if the rules and standards were more like fraternities. they do a much better job of having fun and making friends and memories.

I don't understand why you would think that fraternities do a much better job of having fun and making friends and memories. I am so happy in my house; it has changed my life, honestly. I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. And frat hazing is a big part of fraternity pledgeship; that is not, in any way, "a much better job of having fun and making friends and memories." Hazing aside, the boys don't have it better, they just have their way. Their rush wouldn't work for me. I liked the organization and structure of NPC recruitment as a PNM. I wouldn't want to just wander around on my own and not have a chance to visit equally at each house. Or be in a house that doesn't get as many PNM's and only be able to take a small class. It is not an equitable system for either PNM or chapter.

Fraternities as we know them are on the way out partly because of the risk of people literally dying so I wouldn’t be so quick to say we should be like them. More and more national fraternities are becoming dry/banning open parties/making strict new member programs. And that doesn’t even include the restrictions universities are creating so enjoy it while it lasts.

And for the record, @the right stuff is right. If the top 75% of members didn’t show up and do what they had to do, we wouldn’t be able to have any fun at all. There’s a reason why most organizations require you to go to chapter, get greek points, etc to attend swaps and date parties.

Even your "nickname" sounds like a bitter woman. I think you are oversimplifying the OP. She said she made good grades and enjoys their philanthropy. She didn't say she didn't participate or was a "taker". . Not everyone is a type A personality. Every organization needs those people in certain key leadership positions. But every organization also needs some relaxed, friendly, and outgoing people for other key leadership positions. If you polled most pnms (and they were honest), I bet about 85% are also hoping for "fun and memories". I hold a leadership position in my particular sorority, but I mainly joined for the social aspects. So are we lying when we say "you will make life-long friends" and "you will meet your future bridesmaids". Do we stand up at recruitment and tell them "we are here to change the world and if you are joining for fun, social life, and friends(aka sisterhood), then you are "doing it all wrong". You are literally saying not to join for those reasons. YOU are who the OP is referring to, I am sure.